So I (16f) and my mom (51f) went to my neurologist appointment yesterday because my migraines have been acting up like crazy lately. My mom is really into natural stuff and has giving me soooo many vitamins and random “natural” stuff she has found online for me to take. She gets upset if I refuse to take them.
The thing is I’m not doing that out of disrespect, I do my own research and some of the stuff she has me taking either won’t do anything for my migraines, or is to much. Like she has me taking almost 700 milligrams of magnesium a day that’s insane. I brought it up to her after doing my own teacher and finding that I really shouldn’t be having more than 400 milligrams a day and she got pissed at me. She also gets mad when I refuse to read the chat gpt “articles” she sends me but I dont think it’s all the accurate. (Especially cause it suggested I take 850 milligrams somehow😭)
So when she was taking about all the prescriptions and medicines with my neurologist my mom mentioned one of the pills she has me taking. The doctor suggested I stop taking it when my new prescription comes in because it also has magnesium in it. I decide to ask how much magnesium I should be having a day and she says exactly what I have been telling my mom. Around 350 milligrams. Here’s Where I was a little petty… I turned to my mom and said “ i told you so” and I was playing around but she got fr butt hurt. When we got it the car she was pissed and didn’t talk to me💔
I don’t think I’m really the butthole because I had been telling her but she dosent wanna listen to anything that ain’t chat gpt or anyone younger than her. It’s about my health and I was just trying to show her that I know what’s good for me as well.
NTA, and honestly she probably wasn’t embarrassed enough. Your mom is going to end up damaging your organs. Vitamins and supplements absolutely can be toxic in the wrong dosages.
Stop taking health advice from your deranged mother and only listen to medical professionals.
I don’t understand why people are trying to make you the asshole. You’re the asshole for making a playful jab at her for… slowly poisoning you with pseudoscience? Who cares if she’s ‘just trying to help’ when her method of doing so is fucking around with unregulated supplements. Let me be clear; ‘supplement’ is an unregulated term. Anybody can put virtually anything in a ‘supplement’ and sell it as a wonder cure and there’s no law stopping them. And she is regularly finding and giving you ‘natural cures’ with AI evidence backing them? Your migraines could have had some other underlying cause that she was only making worse by trying to cure it at home. That’s extremely dangerous and she should be embarrassed. NTA.
Magnesium poisoning is a condition where you have too much magnesium in your system. It is hard to detect until it is at dangerous levels. Magnesium poisoning can kill you. You need to tell your doctor what your mom is doing immediately if possible so that your doctors can take the correct steps to keep you safe. ETA: NTA
NTA. I would have asked her to leave so you can discuss medical stuff with your doctor as “practice “ for being an adult. I step out of the room for my 16 year old daughter in case she wants to talk with the doctor about something she isn’t willing to share with me. Then brought it up then.
Idk if you can bring that up at a next appointment. In front of Doctor, say ,”Hey mom, I want to practice talking with the doctor when you aren’t here because I’ll be 18 soon and they won’t let you in with me then.” Hopefully your doctor or nurse recognizes what is going on.
I mean I as a parent of a 16 year old, I would ask the doctor if the “oral supplements” I am giving my child are safe. There are so many possible interactions that can happen. By the way, I am proud of you for self-advocating. It takes a lot to defend yourself from your parents. I never was able to.
NTA – you poor thing, I can’t imagine what all that magnesium was doing to your digestive tract.
You must be shitting your brains out.
I maintain my judgement, but you do need to learn time and place. You could have said it to her in the car or at home. Saying things like that to your mom in front of other adults, will only end badly for you in the end.
That being said, hopefully she listens to the doctor and stops using you as a guinea pig for herbal remedies. I am a mom and I understand wanting to do whatever you can to help your child, but some of those “all natural remedies” can really harm you in the long run.
NTA.
Electrolyte imbalance can be really serious. Like, hospitalization serious. You can’t just take whatever dose you like because a chat bot told you to, and your mother ought to have been on this earth long enough to know that.
If she was embarrassed, well, kind of the direct consequence of her choice to fall down the rabbit hole of pseudoscience instead of consulting actual doctors, isn’t it? You were right to ask the neurologist. They’re the expert.
NTA… I’m an RN, we NEED to know everything you’re taking, including supplements, because dangerous interactions can occur. And magnesium is one up need to be careful with. I also take it for migraines, but too much can really affect the heart. Please be honest with your doctor, it could literally save your life.
Exactly. She should only be taking what her doctor tells her to take, & the doctor should know everything she takes, even supplements & OTC meds. Mixing & matching without doctor’s direction/knowledge can be dangerous. Mother’s actions are reckless & she needs to stop.
I wonder if the mum is using essential oils too. The smell of some can trigger migraines so this would need to be ruled out as part of working out triggers.
I will never forget the guy taking goldenseal for his “nature” (aka as an erection) and ended up in ICU in renal failure. Just because something is natural doesn’t mean it’s safe.
>Just because something is natural doesn’t mean it’s safe.
That’s how I feel about pregnancy lol.
NTA I’ve had migraines my entire life and started seeing a neurologist at your age. You need to go by what the doctor says, not your mother. Taking too much of anything can have the reverse effect than that your mothers good intentions are.
please join r/migraines it may be useful for you with different things to try or getting a better understanding of some medications. One thing I might suggest, is talking to your pcp or gynecologist about a non-estrogen birth control (if not now, down the line). It was a game changer for me when I was your age. The hormones triggered the worst migraines in me for 3 weeks of the month. I wish you the best of luck, migraines suck.
You can’t embarrass her by letting the doctor know what your mother is giving you, it is the opposite: he has to know exactly what you take.
Give him a detailed list.
Everything else is dangerous. Never hold information from your doctor ever.
Your mother can’t just play parallel doctor to you, she needs to trust the professionals if she really wants the best for you.
NTA of course. Your body, your health.
NTA too much of a supplement can actually do more harm than good. I took too much vitamin D and almost destroyed my kidneys. Doctors went to school, chatgpt didn’t.