We’ve been friends for 8 years. I’m no gamer, I like cozy games but my friends pestered me to play Monster Hunter Rise, World and Elden Ring. Next was Elden Ring NR. It’s a stressful game.
So I ain’t going into specifics because it’ll bore you but my friend was not being a team player one time and I got angry at him. He didn’t apologize. I posted this on another acc and many said he was an asshole for that and I should stop playing with him.
After that day I just wanted to chill and have fun with the game so I don’t get angry again. I chose another character and he said "Are you sure about that? I haven’t gotten to Depth 4…" (he can always play solo to reach it) I told him "I’m just going to have fun and this character has less need for luck for good weapons. I don’t want something that happened the other day."
Anyway, he kept on talking like "OH you were angry about the other day, I DIDN’T KNOW". He knows. I was like, "Yeah because you refused to give me the weapon I needed" I wasn’t looking for a fight. I just wanted to play this new character and have fun but he kept talking and talking. I slowly got angry because for a while I didn’t want to play with him anymore but our other friend kept insisting. We both exploded.
So I just told him "You’re a man but…" He got really angry. Anyway, after that he told me, "Now you’re attacking me for my gender. I have a lot to say but I won’t because you might get depressed again" in a sarcastic tone. So I have been depressed for a while, I opened up to him about my trauma and I couldn’t believe he would use that against me.
My friend has been a bit toxic ever since he had a fallout with his ex friends like 5 years ago. He is still friends with them on Facebook all to stalk them waiting for their downfall. Whenever his widowed dad gets a new gf he kept undermining the women like "Oh my father just wanted her for sex, I’ll treat her like a maid." He is also proud of being a mama’s boy, he’s 27.
I talked to him about his mindset like move on from his ex friends, not hold a grudge and improve himself. I think I could be an asshole based on what I said to him. I do regret saying it.
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We’ve been friends for 8 years. I’m no gamer, I like cozy games but my friends pestered me to play Monster Hunter Rise, World and Elden Ring. Next was Elden Ring NR. It’s a stressful game.
So I ain’t going into specifics because it’ll bore you but my friend was not being a team player one time and I got angry at him. He didn’t apologize. I posted this on another acc and many said he was an asshole for that and I should stop playing with him.
After that day I just wanted to chill and have fun with the game so I don’t get angry again. I chose another character and he said “Are you sure about that? I haven’t gotten to Depth 4…” (he can always play solo to reach it) I told him “I’m just going to have fun and this character has less need for luck for good weapons. I don’t want something that happened the other day.”
Anyway, he kept on talking like “OH you were angry about the other day, I DIDN’T KNOW”. He knows. I was like, “Yeah because you refused to give me the weapon I needed” I wasn’t looking for a fight. I just wanted to play this new character and have fun but he kept talking and talking. I slowly got angry because for a while I didn’t want to play with him anymore but our other friend kept insisting. We both exploded.
So I just told him “You’re a man but…” He got really angry. Anyway, after that he told me, “Now you’re attacking me for my gender. I have a lot to say but I won’t because you might get depressed again” in a sarcastic tone. So I have been depressed for a while, I opened up to him about my trauma and I couldn’t believe he would use that against me.
My friend has been a bit toxic ever since he had a fallout with his ex friends. He is still friends with them on Facebook all to stalk them waiting for their downfall. Whenever his widowed dad gets a new gf he kept undermining the women like “Oh my father just wanted her for sex, I’ll treat her like a maid.” He is also proud of being a mama’s boy, he’s 27.
I talked to him about his mindset like move on from his ex friends, not hold a grudge and improve himself. I think I could be an asshole based on what I said to him. I do regret saying it.
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While your comment about his gender was unfair, using your mental health against you was cruel and unacceptable betrayal of trust.