My grandma has been very cold and callous to me and my family since she found out our beliefs and how we want to raise our kids differ from hers. We’re ignored at family events or even outright told to leave by her. Now she’s on her deathbed, likely to pass this weekend, but she’s comfortable. I don’t want to see her because I fear we will cause her great distress in her dying moments, we won’t come to terms with anything, and we won’t make any sort of peace.