Throwaway account. Also, English is not my first language. I apologise for any mistake!
I (25M) live with my boyfriend (26M) in a big city. I grew up in a smallish town more than an hour away from this city; when I was in high school I had to travel everyday between this city (where my school was located) and my hometown. Two years ago I moved here.
Now my little brother Luke (14M) goes to the same high school. Early this fall he and my mom asked us if he could stay over here at our apartment during the week and go back home only on the weekends to avoid travelling every day.
I love Luke, we have a great relationship and it’s always a joy to have him around; my boyfriend really likes him too. There is only one issue, that is our “lifestyle”: my boyfriend and I are nudists.
Now, it’s not the first time that Luke has stayed over, but it was never for more than a week, so we were fully clothed on those occasions. This time however, he is going to stay here for months, plus he’ll probably do the same next year. So, we agreed with just one condition: if we could keep being nudists when he is over. Of course he doesn’t have to join us, we would never force him in any way.
Luke was a bit uncomfortable with the idea, but he said that it’s fair and that he’ll get used to it. My mom, on the other hand, got really mad at us and refused our condition. She kept insisting but we were firm and in the end Luke kept taking the bus.
A couple days ago Luke approached me and told me he is really tired of travelling every day and begged me to convince our mom to let him stay with us with our condition (apparently he already told our mom many times about it). So I had a talk with mom again, but she doesn’t want to change her mind and says that I should do if I truly love my brother.
So, AITA for insisting about my one and only condition?
NTA. Your mother wants to make it your problem but really she is just a prude. Tell your brother it didn’t work. Your mother wants to govern your behavior from afar.
Errrrr… idk? You deserve private space and don’t need a 14yo disturbing that, but also is there not a highschool in your hometown? I got bus every day when I was at skl but it was abt 15 minutes and I would never complain. if it’s any longer than 30 then just move to a closer skl.
NTA, you and your husband deserve personal space, and this kid knows what this stuff is, he’s not an innocent baby.
Edit: I meant partner, not husband
YTA. The fact that you refuse to put clothing on to make your brother’s, who you love and have a great relationship with, life a little easier is so stupid. Compromise, tell him he can stay for 2-3 nights a week to alleviate the school commute. You and BF can wear clothes for that time like normal people. Also I agree with your mom – it’s really fuckin weird that you and would be fine exposing yourselves to your own underage brother, people get arrested for that shit.
YTAH just put some fucking clothes on during the week, come on.
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NTA
This has to be bait. C’mon. C’moooon.
this is a hard one. assuming this is real, you’re absolutely free to live how you want, but i can understand your mom’s concern. you being naked around your brother is one thing, but your boyfriend? i would have a hard time letting my child live with someone who is always nude who isn’t a relative, especially if i wasn’t there. how much time does it take for your brother to commute ?
NTA your life your apartment
Yta. Even if he agrees, two adults consistently being naked around 14 year old is going to ring some bells. This is a strange hill to die on. A night gown won’t kill you two.
NTA That’s brilliant. Your mom’s trying to dump a 14-year-old on you and your boyfriend to raise for her. You can also tell her no, you took the bus and were fine. He can too.
If this is not a bot, he’s a kid and he’s already told you he’s uncomfortable with it. Put on the clothes.