I (21F) and my friend (22F) have been traveling overseas for the last 2 months in Europe staying in hostels and living in up on a budget. Two weeks ago when we were out clubbing my girlfriend met a guy who was paying for all our drinks and really attractive. My bestie and him got along great ended up getting intimate and spending a lot of time together. So the last, two weeks I have been spending a decent amount of time with them, but also have given them space and explored the city on my own.
So now we are in Mykonos Greece all together, and the guy she met suggested we go on a day cruise to different neighboring islands. At first, this sounded alight (still a bit sketchy) but when I asked which cruise line we were going he said it was meant to be a surprise for my friend. At this point, I said I would not be going and the idea doesn’t feel right to me. My bestie who I thought would have my back at this point said "you are being paranoid". Then when we were in private proceeded state "I just didn’t want to be around them and was feeling lonely without a man". I spent as much time trying to convince her not to go as possible but she ended up doing it.
Everything was apparently, fine she spent the day on the water and visiting the islands then came back around sunset and met back up with me.(Note this whole time I was pretty worried about her safety). Now I’m coping it, with her saying how my "Paranoia, stopped me having a really good day" and that "I shouldn’t have ditched her to stay home and do nothing"
AITA
NTA. I absolutely would have made the same decision as you. Safety comes first.
That’s how I felt, I thought it sounded very risky
NAH. But going for a day trip cruise is super common so you’re being a bit paranoid
With a stranger youve just met who wont tell you with what company the day cruise is thru, is super common?
Yea, I agree I don’t think was being an ass, but I just didn’t feel safe enough to want to go
NTA. id have done the same thing. Shes lucky shes okay and something worse didnt happen.
Like how much of someone can you know in 2 weeks. Ppl trusted Epstein(he was a finance guy) or ted Bundy (he was attractive how else did he get women to go out with him)
idk if your close with relatives of yours or hers but id mention something about this “guest” as you are still VERY young impressionable young women.
If hes paying for things id gtfo and find a hostel or something.
Well, I will be going home soon so it won’t be an issue
NTA. The beginning of your post sounded like this could’ve been a Taken remake except no Liam Neeson to go save her.
OML that’s a good call
NTA at all. Solo boat trip with a guy you met two weeks ago and no clear company name is exactly the kind of thing women are told to be careful about.
You respected her choice to go, you just chose your own comfort level and watched out for her. Her taking shots at you after the fact is super unfair, especially when you were literally stressing about her safety all day.
Yea, I accept it was her choice to go but I feel like making light out of my concerns is not cool
How did *you* spend *your* day? Was it enjoyable?
NAH has nobody in these comments ever travelled and backpacked before? These girls are staying in hostels and sharing rooms with strangers, but a day trip boat ride with someone she spent 2 weeks with everyday and that’s the risky thing? People are comparing it to Ted Bundy?
You’re not an AH because you didn’t need to go on what was clearly a romantic gesture for her. She’s not an AH for going on a day trip with a guy she likes. If she’s truly mad at you for not coming she’s a bit of an AH.
You’re traveling without a plan so I assume you do a lot of spontaneous things with people you just met and this is just one of them. Not a big deal.