So, long story short, I (22F) am home only once a week because I study in another city. My brother (15M) has a way smaller room than me and recently got the idea of using my room as his but that bothers me because it feels like he is invading my space and dirtying my sheets. I am of course the one doing the cleaning whenever I come home, so I don’t like the fact that I won’t come home to a clean room for the weekend. AITA for not letting him sleep there everyday of the week when I am not home ?
Edit : I am fully home during holidays and am not moved out but in a dorm.
YTA for not just switching rooms. You don’t live there anymore and he has another 3 years at least at home. Pick a weekend and do the swap you selfish asshole.
Let him take the larger room and take the smaller. You aren’t there. He won’t want to be in it. You won’t have to clean his mess.
INFO: is your bedroom further away from the parent’s bedroom? You’re NTA, but there may be more reasons than size for a hormonal teen to stay in your room.
NTA for not wanting your borther to sleep in your bed, you should swap rooms with your brother though. He’s there full time and at 22 you won’t be living with your parents much longer.
INFO can you switch rooms since you’re there only on the weekends and holidays?
ESH.
If your brother is going to sleep in your bed, then the absolute LEAST he should do is to change the sheets before you come home.
However, if you are at college most of the week and most of the year, then it would be reasonable for you to switch rooms with your brother. You’re 22, plenty old enough to give up “personal” space in your parents’ house.
Your parents should have enforced a room switch by now. If you live in the dorms part of the year and he is in high school, he should have the bigger room.
NTA that your room and space. One suggestion though, are you willing to swap rooms with him since you are only home 1 day/week. Like fully move your stuff to his room and vice versa.
What if he washes and changes the sheets before you get back? He gets the big room. You get one less chore.
Invading your space is understandably ick, though.
YTA, you should switch rooms with him since he lives there full time and you don’t
Honestly if I was only home once a week-ish and he was home full time, I’d switch rooms. Younger siblings always get the smaller room… you’re basically half way out the door, would be a sweet gesture to swap rooms and let him have a little more space for the balance of his teen years.
If you are only home one day a week why can’t you switch rooms? Seems unreasonable to keep him in the smaller room when you are never home.
NTA for not letting him sleep in your bed. But your pretty close to being one for making him stay in the smaller room when you don’t really live there anymore.
Your parents should switch your rooms
YTA (softly.)
You’re functionally moved out, unless your plan is to finish studies in a few months and then resume living with your parents for the foreseeable future.
Why not swap the rooms you’re best able at this point? He’s 15, still has a few teenage years to live his life there full time.
Seems like a fine compromise.
Keeping the nicer and larger room for yourself like this is just a tiny bit rude and selfish to your brother.
You’re not awful by any means, I get it. But if the choice is NTA or YTA I’ve got to pick a side I guess.