For context, I (26F) was cleaning the house when my dog was playfully zooming around my mom. Probably annoyed, she called him crazy.
In a jest to defend my dog, I said "Well where else will he get it from if not you? Crazyyy."
Then she got really offended saying I have no respect for her and she’s my mom. She said it to the dog because he’s a dog. I honestly had no negative intention in calling her crazy, it was just a joke. Now she’s really mad. I already apologized and said I didn’t mean anything bad when I said it but I feel like she’s taking it to heart and I also feel really bad.
AITA?
NTA but an apology wouldn’t hurt. Don’t double down and risk family drama. You would be TA if you didn’t at least say sorry
Maybe you caught her at a bad time? Seems a bit much otherwise. Maybe ask her down the line if everything’s alright with her.
NAH anyway.
NAH (No Assholes Here). This is a classic “Lost in Translation” moment between generations. In your head, it’s a lighthearted “like mother like daughter/dog” joke. In her head, “crazy” is a serious insult to her character and authority. You aren’t a jerk for joking, but she’s allowed to have a boundary about how she’s spoken to. Just apologize for the misunderstanding and move on.
NAH.
This makes no sense. It’s your dog, so you called yourself crazy, not your mom.
NTA I call my parents crazy for fun all the time. If it genuinely upset your mom, apologize and assure her you didn’t mean anything by it, and tell her you love her!
If my mum gets offended it’s usually because she’s self conscious or something related to the subject is bugging her. Even mums need reassurance sometimes!
I sometimes do that
yta you should always treat you’re parent’s with respect NO MATTER WHAT. no exception’s. I would never call ny mom crazy or she would of beat my ass. It taught me to be a better man. If you’re dog is causing your mom stress then get rid off it, simple as that and then every one’s happy
I don’t think it’s an asshole level situation. But if there were hurt feelings, maybe you can apologize and clear the air?
NAH
This seems like the straw that broke the camels back. Why would your mom react that strongly? Either, she actually is what you called her jokingly, or you aren’t telling the full story.
From the story alone, NTA
Idk, she calls me names at times too and I don’t take offense. She called the dog crazy in a joking manner and I joked back that she’s just as crazy. But she’s angry.
Nta, I say things like this to my kids and vice versa all the time.
NTA, was only a joke, she should pull the stick out of her asshole.