My girlfriend is going out with friends on tonight. There is an event on at the club in town so they are going for food and then a few drinks then going to the club.
She asked what I am planning for the evening and I said I’d likely just have a couple of drinks, order some food and play video games and watch Netflix and have a nice chilled night.
She got a bit annoyed and said she might have asked me to pick her up but I can’t if I’m drinking. I said she could always get a taxi like she usually does but she said I should be fine with picking her up. I told her I shouldn’t have to change my plans just because she refuses to get a taxi.
I pointed out I’d likely be asleep anyway but the time she’s finished. She said I was being unfair but asked if I would book the taxi for her.
I said I would if I was awake but that there’s a good chance I’ll already be asleep as she’ll be back late.
She said I should wait up then but I just pointed out the club event ends at 3am so I’m not waiting up until 3 just to possibly book a taxi. I pointed out she’s more than capable of sorting out her own taxis or asking her friends to book it for her.
She said she wasn’t asking for much and that it’s only one night but I just said she can’t expect me to sit around waiting for her.
She just said again that she wasn’t asking for much and I should be fine with helping her and I should be happy to pick her up.
I told her again to text me when she’s finished and if I’m awake I’ll book a taxi but if not she is more than capable of booking it herself or getting a friend to book it.
AITAH for not picking my partner up after a night out?
NTA
She is absolutely capable of booking a taxi
If she needed a lift back for some reason she should have asked more in advance rather than assuming – 3am is LATE!
NTA If she’s old enough to go to a club, she’s old enough to call a taxi. Since she’s with friends they could probably share a taxi anyway.
Nta, ask her if she can avoid drinking tonight, u might want a ride.
INFO: WHY is she so insistent that YOU must pick her up, or that YOU must book her a taxi/uber? WHY do you have to lose sleep so that SHE can demand that you be responsible for her getting home? Is this typical behavior?
High chance he is being subjected to some sort of relationship test or social media challenge without knowing.
Someone told his GF that if he is the one, he will sit at home, with baited breath, ready to be at her beck and call, while she is out partying.
Only he is a reasonable person who treats her like a grown up woman he can trust, rather than a spoiled princess to pamper and dote upon. So he’ll likely fail “the test”.
I saw the other thread you posted and it’s an NTA from me. Everyone saying you’re in the wrong for wanting something to happen to her didn’t read the whole post. She’s not clubbing alone, she’ll be with friends, and she is an adult. If she doesn’t have the foresight to see that she shouldn’t be drinking around people she can’t trust I don’t see how that’s your fault. And if she were actually in any danger I assume you are a rational person and ofc would go get her
NTA – you’re in a relationship with a child. Sorry.
How old is she?
Happy to pick her up at 3am or stay up until 3am to book her a taxi? Lolk
She sounds like a lot, move on my dude!
NTA! She’s also enough to drink, she’s old enough to book her own ride!!
NTA!!! she is a grown woman, she should be able to find her own way home. If she can’t then she should not be going out at all. You shouldn’t have to cancel your plans to possibly book a taxi at 3am when she should be able to well on her own.
She wants you to pay for the taxi.
My kids have been booking their own rides since they were 14yrs old. How old is your gf…12?
If she’s old enough to go to a club and drink, she’s old enough to get her own damn car
NTA.
No-one should ever get to the point of being so drunk or high in public that they can’t get themselves home safe.
Yeah, we should all be free to do what we like blah blah, someone tell the criminals that. In the meantime, personal responsibility for own safety, no matter what gender/agee.
I hope this is fake? If not, your GF is extremely entitled to think you should figure out how she’s getting home when she’s out with friends. She can take a taxi, uber, ride with a friend, whatever. It should not be your job. You’re NTA, but is she always this self-centered?