I know that by the title it would be obvious but let me explain the situation.
Basically it was my first job ever. I’m not very social. I didn’t really have much interaction with other people growing up. I mostly just stayed in the background(I could be neurodivergent I’m not sure).
So the day before “the incident” my coworker ordered a pizza and he shared with me and my other coworker. And then asked me if I wanted another piece. I said no, because I was trying to lose weight at that time and one was enough.
The day after that I went to work without eating the breakfast and there were 2 slices of pizza still in the box. I thought that if he asked me the day before if I wanted another slice then it would be ok if I had one. I also thought it would be ok since there were situations previously where someone left the food on the counter or in the fridge and it went bad.
The day went ok. He didn’t say anything to me, but the day after that he got mad at me for something else and gave me a whole lecture about not eating something that isn’t mine. I felt very self conscious because I was very insecure about my weight at that time and anyone saying anything about me eating triggered me pretty badly.. I felt like crying the whole time and I simply didn’t understand why one day it was ok for me to it that slice and not ok another day.
I know that I should’ve asked but as I said.. I’m really bad at social interactions and I just prefer to not say anything.
This situation was one of the reasons why I quit the job in the end and didn’t get another one since.
I’m just too bad when it comes to talking to people or social standards(?).
YTA-buy a pizza to make up for your lack of manners
YTA that pizza wasn’t yours.
He asked if you wanted more om that day and you turned it down. He probably planned to have the leftovers for lunch or something.
YTA, you took his lunch without asking.
Yesterday’s offer was: i have an extra slice, want one?
Today it was: this is the entirety of my lunch, and you took it. You owe me lunch.
YTA. Another slice was offered to you in the moment as he hasd already eaten his fill. A new day is a new day. He could have intended to eat that as it was his left overs.
The fact that he offered it to you the day before does not entitle you to take it the next day when it’s still there.
YTA. the coworker offered, you declined, so the pizza wasn’t available to you any more. just ask next time.
Yeah YTA – it wasn’t your intention to upset your coworker but you still should have asked first. Your coworker may have thought since you didn’t want those slices he’d have them for lunch tomorrow. In the same way your mind can change, so can he which is why you should communicate.
You may be socially anxious but it’s still your responsibility to develop skills to cope and communicate effectively. You taking things too personally and getting critical feedback leading you to quitting (and avoiding employment) is really indicative you need to develop skills. Perhaps therapy would be a good starting place.
YTA. Pretty obviously. Just because he offered you another piece the day before doesn’t mean that that offer still stands the next day. You don’t know what he was planning on doing with those 2 slices (since he left them at work, it was probably his lunch for that day too). You very easily could have just asked him if it was still up for grabs.
YTA. There is 0 excuse for eating someone else’s food. “I might be neurodivergent” and “they offered it to me yesterday”? Even Sheldon Cooper would agree YTA 😂
YTA. He offered you an extra slice as a friendly gesture whilst you were sat eating lunch together. This is never a free invitation to help yourself the morning after, especially when you’ve looked in the box and can see there are only 2 slices remaining. It wasn’t your pizza to begin with, and leaving him with only 1 slice for himself is rude.
He probably didn’t need to ream you out over it, but it is a bit of a wild social faux pas on your behalf. Don’t sweat it, in future just assume that offers of food are an in-the-moment thing, and don’t mean you can help yourself the day after without asking the other person.
YTA, you took his lunch dude. The offer was in the moment not indefinite access to the pizza.
Your explanation of your social issues, growing up, the diet etc… are context for why you struggle with these issues but they are not excuses that justify your behavior. You need to work on yourself. You shouldn’t quit a job over pizza.
Yta
Yes, you messed up. Just because someone offers you something now doesn’t mean the offer still exists later. You should have eaten breakfast before getting to work, or brought food with you. It’s not your coworker’s responsibility to feed you.
However, the bigger mess up was the part where you know you struggle with social interactions and instead of trying to learn and do better you just gave up. It is possible to learn and improve, but it requires effort from you, and it doesn’t sound like you’re trying. That’s the REAL issue.
YTA, a bit to your coworker but really mostly to yourself.
YTA
>I could be neurodivergent I’m not sure
That’s no excuse. You self diagnosed people trying to hide behind whatever condition you think you may have are annoying AF.
>I simply didn’t understand why one day it was ok for me to it that slice and not ok another day.
>I know that I should’ve asked
>I’m really bad at social interactions and I just prefer to not say anything.
Which is it? You don’t understand why you had to ask or you know you should have? Or you knew you should have but just didn’t want to?
YTA. Invitations are not permanent. If someone invites you to their home for a party does that mean you can come the day after and drink their beer? When you take people’s stuff without asking, they will be upset. The sooner you understand that you need to face the music and apologize, the easier it will be to accept responsibility for your behavior and move on. The more you do this the easier it will be. If you always hide away from light conflict in social interaction the more it will seem as if the world exists to victimize you.