I 34M have been married to my wife 34F for about a year and together for 5 years. Over this time we have come to the agreement that I cook dinner and she puts away the leftovers/ does most of the dishes. I also do all of the grocery shopping. It just makes more since as I’m the one cooking and I get off work a couple hours before her. My wife is very particular and will complain about the brand of every single item I purchase if it’s not her specific favorite. Most of the times I just buy according to her preference. The one exception is Andouille sausage. Our local grocery has pre cut sausage that is also slightly cheaper than the brand she prefers. Every Monday I make on of her favorite meals consisting of sausage potatoes and veggies in a sauce. Once everything is mixed in the sauce she can’t tell the difference and won’t say anything but anytime she gets home before I’m done and sees the packaging she will complain. I’ve explained that I also work 10 hour days and appreciate saving 10 minutes of prep time by getting precut sausage. She is absolutely not having it and getting upset. When I pointed out that she can’t even tell the difference she states that she always can but just doesn’t always say something. Am I the asshole for wanting to save some prep time and buying the precut sausage?
ESH
If she keeps bringing it up, it really bothers her. Don’t ignore her like she can’t just ignore your prep time concern. You need a compromise. Buy it in advance and ask her to cut it on Sunday.
NTA. If she wants to go grocery shopping for those items and prep the sausage herself, thatʻs fine. But if she expects you to do it, she gets the one thatʻs easier for you.
NTA. This is kind of ridiculous. Anyway, buy a bunch of the sausage she likes and have her prep it in advance, bag it into the portion you need for the dinner, and freeze it. Take it out and pop in the fridge on Sunday so it is thawed on Monday when you want to use it.
NTA. I was sooo ready for this to be an “incompetent man never taking his wife’s preferences or feelings seriously” situation like we see all the time on this Reddit, but man was I wrong. This just sounds exhausting.
Maybe you two can come to an agreement. If she likes the uncut sausage, she can prep it ahead of time. Maybe you two buy a few packs of it at the store, and then have her cut them up and portion them and place them in the freezer for when you need them so that way it’s precut but to her preference.
My husband has been doing pretty much all of the cooking in our house for the last year and a half. I eat what he cooks, and I don’t complain. I was taught that you don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. NTA. Your wife is TA.
Why does it take 10 minutes to cut sausages?
NTA-but what about a compromise. You buy the sausage she likes, she is the one that cuts it up for you to save you the prep time.
I’d just stop making that particular meal and stop buying the sausage. Problem solved.
If she can’t appreciate all the time you put into grocery shopping, food prep and cooking she can start taking some of that off your plate.. She doesn’t like the sausage? Fine, do the grocery shopping on your own. She sounds very unappreciative. Maybe it’s time to have her help with the prep and cooking when she gets home and start eating later.
ESH.
She’s not TA for having strong preferences on what she eats. You’re not TA for thinking saving 10 minutes is worth the slight difference in taste.
You’re both TA for making it the other person’s duty to kowtow to your will.
Maybe buy extra sausage to pre-prep and freeze. Or maybe switch off who cooks if you’re unhappy with the labor division. Don’t just tell your wife her preferences aren’t worth your time and effort.
NTA. I would do the same thing.
How bout this? Buy her preferred sausage. She can cut it up over the weekend and have it ready for you to make her favorite Monday meal.
How much cheaper is it? It’s 10 extra minutes a week?
Not saying she’s entitled to it – but considering it’s her favourite dish – seems a small cross to bear to thrill your newlywed wife
Yeah no way it takes 10 min to cut sausage
What a stupid thing to fight about
This is not about sausage.
Get some couples therapy if you can’t figure it out on your own.
Also, when it is about sausage someday, the cook chooses the ingredients.