Edit: we are both 22
My roommates love to show me pictures of their dates, and I, only when asked (something along the lines of “what do you think”) will respond “oh, she’s cute”.
My girlfriend overheard me talking with my roommate and she was very upset with this. I honestly didn’t think it was a big deal, I clarified to her that I had no romantic interest in these girls and I was just trying to be nice to my roommates, but she said she never wants to hear me say such things. I framed it from an angle of the girls being cute for my roommates; not for me (I don’t even find them cute)
Am I being an asshole for saying these things? This is my first relationship so I’m not sure what I can say
NTA. Your gf is insecure.
Sounds like she’s ridiculously insecure to me or militant in her opinions and expects everyone to conform to her judgement.
Honestly, she’s not ready for a relationship in any case.
Didn’t see any ages in here, but I would venture a guess that the girlfriend is probably 23 years or younger. Because this is such an immature thing to bring up. If OP was saying something wild like about her body, sure. Unless his gf is the most beautiful person on the planet, she may need to come to grips with their being other cute women out there.
NTA – your girlfriend’s being overly sensitive. But I assume you guys are super young since its your first rs, so whatever, your gf might grow out of it.
NTA – you’re a kind person and your girlfriend could try to figure out what stresses her so much about it
NTA I think she’s simply a little insecure and is worried about losing you to someone else if you’re saying other girls are ‘cute’
Personally I would sit her down, start by saying that anything you say about these other girls is purely for the sake of your roommates, that you personally only have eyes for her. Then tell her everything you see in her.
NTA
Your girlfriend is wildly insecure. This is perfectly normal behaviour and she sounds incredible juvenile and immature. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
NTA Ask your girlfriend what you’re meant to say to your roommate when he asks you what you think of a picture of his date? Ask her how she’d feel if instead she overheard you showing a picture of her to your roommate and he responded as if you’d shown him a picture of a monkey’s butt?
NTA
NTA, she sounds a little insecure. If you said “Oh yeah she’s hot, I would” – totally different, but you said she’s cute.
I’m assuming your girlfriend has friends of her own who sometimes talk to her about the guys that they are dating or show her pictures of them and since I sincerely doubt she goes “oh they’re ugly“ every time then she’s being a hypocrite.
NTA what are you meant to do?
1. Oh she is HIDIOUS – A monster!
2. I’ve gone blind
You didn’t mean anything by it, but I can see why it might make your girlfriend uncomfortable.
It’s not a big deal, but if it bothers her that much, it might be easier to just avoid saying it.