So.. today’s my birthday and I had lunch with my family and bf at around 12pm. After the lunch, my parents, him and I, came back home at around 3pm. I wanted to spend some time with with my bf but he was tired because he went to sleep at around 1am the previous day and woke up at 7am. At around 3:30 he fell asleep without setting up an alarm. So I woke him up at 4:30, after that he fell back asleep and then again at 5:30 I woke him up and he fell back asleep again. At 6:30, I woke him up because it was getting a bit late and today I have to go to bed at 8pm (have to wake up at 4:00 am because of a trip). When I woke him up at 6:30, he got up and I proposed the idea of watching TV together to get the most out of the small amount of time we had left. While watching the show he fell asleep again.
This is where our debate starts. I get upset, not because he fell asleep the entire afternoon on my birthday, but because after a third time waking him up and telling him it was almost time for him to leave, he didn’t even try to stay awake, even while knowing that we had limited time left together. After he left I expressed to him that I was dissapointed that he fell asleep the entire afternoon and that despite me waking him several times, and finally, the last time telling him about out limited time together, he didn’t take any action like washing his face, walkin around, or drinking some more water to try to wake up a little. Furthermore, the fact that he failed to set an alarm to spend time with me on my birthday really dissapointed me.
After expressing that to him, he got upset at me because I didn’t "wake him up" and I just let him sleep the entire afternoon. He says that we wasted the entire afternoon because I wouldn’t wake him up (even though I woke him up several times). He says that he doesn’t understand how I could just let him "sleep" on such a special ocassion. AITA for expecting him to be conscious and responsible and set an alarm on a special ocassion?
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It’s embarrassing that you’re getting that fucking nasty over a typo. Yikes.
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NTA – Not sur eon ages or how long you’ve been together, but has he always had issues waking up in general? Like, he got 6 hours of sleep… it’s not perfect, but it’s more than enough to not feel like a complete zombie, especially on a supposedly loved one’s birthday…
And then he plays the gaslighting card?? Yeah… like I said, not sure how long you’ve been with him, but he clearly didn’t care and has no issues gaslighting… not the kind of person you’d want to have a stable relationship with.
I read this as you being mad at your printer 😂
1am to 7am is enough time to sleep and not be that tired.
What time does he normally work and how often does this happen?
NTA. He’s trying to make you responsible for his behavior. Don’t fall for it. He’s not a child.
NTA . Also it is very odd for someone to be so exhausted they need a 3+ hour nap when they slept 6 hours the night before. Alcohol/drugs possibly?
This sounds like someone who needs to be checked for sleep disorders. Most people couldn’t fall back asleep so frequently if they tried unless they were dead tired to begin with. NAH because you’re both frustrated and disappointed and that’s rough to deal with, but please suggest he talk to a doctor about this.