I’m a 18F and my mom is 35F and I can’t tell if she’s crazy or me.
My mom seems to not like my boyfriend or Friend’s cause I hang out with them a lot, this has been happening since I’ve gone out to fairs and dinners with freinds. Today we stared off good and my boyfriend (18M) and I decided to make plans so I tell my mom that I wanna go out with my boyfriend to a Korean place and my mom said “can we tag along” it would’ve been her and my 2 siblings tagging along. I thought she was joking but I still said, yea sure me and my boyfriend would just sit at another table. She then got all mad saying how that’s disrespectful and how I’m embarrassed of my family but the case is I haven’t seen my boyfriend in 2 weeks and this is a good opportunity to catch up so I tried explaining to her but she told me to shut up. I’ve heard from the grapevine that she says how stupid it is when I go out with freinds and bad mouths them. We once got in a very big fight and her excuse was she doesn’t wanna lose me. I explained to her that she would never lose me. I’m doing chores now to go out since she got mad so I will try to update this. I would appreciate how to handle this better from a mother who maybe has this same mindset. I am leaving for college soon and would like to stay on good terms with my mother.
It seems like your mom is trying to spend as much time as she can with you since you’re leaving for college. You can tell her that you can all go to dinner another time if your boyfriend met your family and he wants to. I think no one’s the asshole because I get how she feels since you’re leaving for college soon.
NTA- It sounds like she wants to be your friend instead of your mom.
NTa
your mom is the problem. Put a lot of distance between yourself and her as soon as you can.