I (F18) live with my mother. I am currently in university and i have a part time job. Me and my mom have a very turbulent relationship, and after a big fight my mother made me start paying for my own food, and bills. The only thing i don’t pay is rent.
My mom works two jobs, and to help her I do every chore, I clean the house, the clothes etc… any chore you can think of I do it. The only one i don’t do is cook since she made me buy my own food since last year.
Yesterday she got home and had no leftovers in the fridge and saw me eat my food. She exploded saying I was ungrateful and selfish and only thought about my own ass. That she works her ass off to pay rent and I just waste her space.
I didnt answer, because im used to her arguing. I told my two older brothers today and they told me I should’ve just given her a bit of my food and that I was mean.
Am I the asshole?
NTA — everyone else is. She expects you to basically do all the work around the house even with your job and education. Move out as soon as you can.
NTA, hopefully you can move out soon.
NTA
If she shared groceries and had you pitch in it would be one thing, but if she’s making you 100% buy your own food it makes no sense to expect you to share.
If she wants you to share food, she should share food.
Did she make you pay for food and bills before you turned 18 or after?
When i was about 17 and a half cause i already had a part time job.
NTA. How the fuck were you supposed to know she didn’t have food? That’s not your responsibility. She’s the one that wanted you to pay for your own groceries, which means she’s responsible for hers. if she didn’t have food, that’s her own fault and she could go pick something up.
NTA, it’s not her food, she can make her own food
She won’t buy your food anymore but expects some of yours. NTA
NTA. But you should find a new place to live asap.
It is really hard atm. Rent is crazy where i live and i have to pay my tuition.
NTA – your mom can’t have it both ways. If she makes you pay for your own food, she can’t then yell at you for eating it.
NTA. Your mother and brothers are. Save up, move out. NC all of them. Toxic is evil and evil shortens lifespans of those around them.
Try to move into a dorm.