My band director has been a lot more rude to me in the past few weeks after an incident and I talked to my mom and she’s mad at me now too. A few weeks ago my band director was yelling at a student to keep playing these same few measures again and having him write in the names and fingerings of the notes. I stood up and told him that I don’t think he’s helping since the student named jack wasn’t improving he was playing worse honestly. He called me disrespectful, I said that I wasn’t being disrespectful and just trying to say to maybe just try to figure out what was actually causing him to struggle. He said then what would I suggest and I said that honestly just ask. So I turned around and asked Jack hey man is this actually helping you and be honest, and he said no the note names are just more to look at. Then I said see it doesn’t help. And he called me disrespectful again. The next incident that happened was last week where my instrument broke in the middle of class and when me and the person next to me where trying ti figure out what’s wrong he called us out and asked why we weren’t playing and I explained that my instrument broke and asked if he knew how to fix it. He came over and asked why I unscrewed a piece of it (which I didn’t, it just broke) which I explained and he didn’t believe me. Anyways he said that I had to be a “big kid” and figure these issues out myself, I’m in 10th grade btw. And I explained to him that I asked for help because I didn’t even know what happened so I didn’t know how to fix it. He called me disrespectful again so I said to him that I wasn’t being disrespectful and trying to say that I was just explaining that I asked for help because I didn’t know what happened. He said I had to figure these things out and I explained that I can’t solve the issue if I don’t even know what happened and he called me disrespectful again and we continued class with me pissed. Then a few weeks later (today) I was playing right and he was blaming me for my group playing bad when I was playing right. And later that period I wasn’t playing this specific part right and when he was helping me by myself (still in front of the class so kinda singling but kinda not) he kept making me play this same part over and over and I told him it’s not the notes I was struggling with it’s the rhythms since the saxophones plays 2 measures then we played one then 2 different trumpet parts plays separately. And he kept just making me play again and again and I said sir this isn’t helping I don’t need help with the notes I need help with the rhythm I already said that, and he said then what would you suggest and I said slightly raising my voice, actually listen to me and I explained why I was confused and he told me to play the notes again so I did and got it right and he made me play it again and I said that your still not listening and he called me disrespectful and we moved on and I just had to figure it out by myself. AITA?
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You know the notes, you don’t know the rhythm SOO you play the SAME notes over & over so you understand the rhythm. How the fuck else are you supposed to understand?
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So you interrupted him with another student to question his teaching methods. Then you distracted another student so neither of you were paying attention in class instead of asking the teacher for help. Then when he was helping you, you once again questioned his teaching methods.
You don’t like the way he teaches and you may even have a point but you’re definitely not going about it the right way. YTA.
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YTA. You’re a kid. Be quiet and let the adult teach the class.