I’ll try to keep this short. I (17F) live with my mom and my older sister (19F) we live in a two-bedroom apartment and therefore me and my sister share a bedroom. My sister has been dating her Boyfriend (19M) for almost a year. I genuinely like him and have no issue with him he nice to me and my mom and treats my sister very good. My sister asked my mom about a month ago if her BF could move in with us about a month ago. He lives in a different state and would be moving here to escape his toxic family and for college. My mom agreed as long, between the two of them, they pay a certain amount each month for Rent.
This is where the problems start to happen.
My sister at first agreed to move into the living room with her BF meaning they would get dividers and get half of the large living room. I agreed as its extremely uncomfortable for me a 17-year-old to have to share a room with my sister AND her BF. I also feel like I shouldn’t have to give up my living space for something I didn’t even get to have a say on. BUT. After deciding he was moving here my sister changed her mind. She says it will be okay if we share a room and I said I don’t feel comfortable. We argued about it and she won’t budge. My mom has offered solutions such as her moving her bedroom into the living room as long as those two (Sister + BF) pay for the things she would need to set up her living space in the living room, 400$ worth of transportable closets and dividers. My sister argued that this also wasn’t fair because they are already paying about 250$ a month for rent each.
Anyways, my sister is not budging on leaving the room and neither am I. I get that she’s paying rent so they kind of has a right to the room, but I feel like I also have a right to the room as a Minor who doesn’t really have a say in my living situation where in comparison they could easily move out. So AITAH for wanting my room or am I being a brat?
(Edit) Hey so I know I just posted this but opened my computer and saw the notifications. I just want to clarify that my mom is looking for a bigger place to rent, and I know her BF would never do anything to me, but I still don’t want to share a room with him even if it’s just for a couple months even just one or two. Mostly because our room is super small and me and my sister practically sleep mattress to mattress.
NTA. Your mother needs to step up and tell your sister that you will not be living in a room where she and her bf are fucking. If your mother does not, you may want to call in social services to prevent this abuse. With any luck, your mother will not find herself in jail. — Your mother also needs to understand that if she abuses you this way, you will leave home as soon as you can and never have contact with her again. This is beyond outrageous. My heart goes out to you.
Sharing a room with an adult man is absolutely NOT ok. Your mom needs to put her foot down for your protection.
NTA. You are a minor. It is absolutely inappropriate for you to be sharing a bedroom with a man, especially an unrelated one. If your sister tries to force it, remind her AND your mom of this and that you will tell every adult in your school until the authorities are on your door.
You absolutely should not be sharing a room with your sister’s boyfriend. Your mom should be stepping into this argument and not leave it up to the two of you to fight over.
Could you share a room with your mom?
NTA
You’re a minor first and foremost. You don’t have any other options.
Moving a man into your bedroom where you change and sleep and are generally vulnerable is absolutely ridiculous.
I guarantee that this will quickly turn into YOU sleeping in the living room ‘to give them privacy’ or some other BS excuse.
Hold your ground. If you give them an inch, you’ll lose everything!
NTA. If mom doesn’t put a stop to this, tell them they can move into mom’s room. It’s probably bigger anyway. And then your mom gets to watch them have sex.
NTA threaten to call CPS your a minor being exposed to a relationship that makes you uncomfortable! Your mom needs to put you first not the rent money and I’m so sorry that’s horrible for you and puts you at risk! You don’t know him like that your mom and sister should be ashamed of themselves stressing you out to feel unsafe!
You are NTA. Your mother is responsible for your wellbeing and safety and she is in charge, not your sister.
Your sister and her boyfriend agreed to take a section of the living room for their bedroom, then changed their mind and now they are trying to push you out of your own room. You should not be put in that position to share a room with them. Is there another family member or friend you can call who can talk some sense into your mother? I am sure there is someone who can help you fix this.
Just because she is paying rent, it doesn’t mean that she gets to be in your room. As a MINOR there is no way that she can justify having a man sleeping in the same room. Hopefully she understands how petty a person can become and enjoys all of the late night noise and activity that goes on in a shared space. Oh, and the lack of privacy, no fun times etc. NTA.
NTA.
Specifically because you’re a minor, this CANNOT happen. It’s incredibly weird for a teenage girl to share a room with a grown man, reguardless of your sister being there. You need privacy, the kind you can’t get when there’s a man bunking with you.
Not to mention, it doesn’t matter if your sister pays 250$ in rent, there was already a plan decided where it’s safe for everyone. She needs to stop being spoiled and stick to it.
NTA. You are a minor, they are both adults, and more than likely sexually active. This is unacceptable for you to be sharing a room with them, this is going to be a very inappropriate situation, and the fact that no one seems to see this in your house is alarming. I would have threatened to call CPS over this.
No. It’s inappropriate, and it’s skeevy. No.
I’d threaten to call cps if she makes me share a room with her boyfriend.
OP is NTA. Older sister and boyfriend should follow the plan and move into the living room or pay for the furniture so that mom can live in living room. The other alternative is for OP and Mom to switch places and older sister and boyfriend share a room with Mom.
I guess the BF isn’t moving in then. Your sister reneged on the agreement. So she doesn’t get to have her BF move in.