I(F15) went to visit my mom and quickly regretted it.
My stepdad was in an accident and had a broken bone and was taken to the hospital and apparently both my mom and his son needed to go to the hospital with him, for a single broken bone. She asked me to take care of my half siblings and I told her I don’t want to do this and she should ask someone else to babysit but she said she can’t find anyone else and "they don’t need constant supervision and just need someone at home with them"
Came dinner time and they said they are hungry and I looked for leftovers or something to heat up for them but there were none so I asked mom who told me to cook something and when I refused she told me to give them some cereal.
I hate cereal for dinner so I gave them some cereal and ordered some sushi for myself.
Now she thinks I was an asshole for doing this and ordering food for myself only.
YTA
For fucks sakes, she had to go to the hospital
You seriously couldn’t make some spaghetti or literally not ordered food in front of the them while they ate cereal
They had to go the hospital to get a bone fixed up…. Literally you just had to be there and not be a dick to them
The bar was not high
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You’re egoistic af
YTA, a selfish, lazy, AH. my word, I feel bad for any future romantic partners fool enough to get involved with you.
YTA. You’re trying to minimize the injury so you look better. While it may just be a broken bone, spouses tend to go to the hospital with their spouse. Period. And you really expected her to find someone last minute to babysit when you were right there? Visiting and it probably wouldn’t have been more than a few hours? Since you said visit, you obviously dont live there so idk what your problem is with just watching them or rather just being present. Cooking 1 meal wouldn’t have killed you. I’m an older sister who’s siblings I have much larger age gaps (they’re all older now) and wouldn’t think twice about making a quick meal. You sound like a brat
Yta
At 15 I doubt you paid using money you’ve earned by holding down a job, so chances are you bought yourself food using your mom’s money. And yeah YTA for using someone else’s money selfishly. Either eat cereal with the other kids or buy food for everyone.
It’s not even your money so you have no argument to justify why you’re the only one who gets to eat something nice.
Also, your mom was in the hospital with her husband! This lack of empathy you’re showing in the comments is disturbing.
Learn to think about others
YTA but you don’t care you clearly hate your mom and your half siblings. You seem like the type to be mad when none of them will have a sibling relationship with you after this and as adults you are going t blame them for not wanting to be close with you
Yep, YTA.
If you want to have any meaningful relationships in your life, with family, friends, and/or a partner, I suggest you start learning about emotional maturity.
I grew up egotistical because that is the behaviour and way of thinking modeled by my parents. I had friends, but friendships never really went beyond a certain level and I never felt true closeness. Same with my bf.
I only started learning about emotional maturity and things related to that until I was in my late twenties and now at 34 I can say I have the truly meaningful friendships I was looking for all my life.
If you don’t know where to start, I started out with watching seminars from Marshall Rosenberg about Non Violent Communication (NVC) on YouTube.
YTA. Seriously, the world does ***not*** in fact, revolve around you.
Yep YTA this was an emergency and yes an adult had to go with your stepdad. And you could have ordered pizza for everyone as easy as you ordered sushi. Time to quit being so selfish and immature. Don’t worry- no one will be going an extra mile for you anytime soon
YTA
Usually I don’t hold with parents forcing kids to take care of their siblings, but this was an emergency.
* Your stepfather needed to go to the hospital (yes, for a “single” broken bone! Don’t act like it doesn’t require any medical attention at all).
* Your mother tried to find a babysitter and couldn’t.
* You were *right there*.
You could have:
* cooked something (you say you “refused,” not that there wasn’t anything to cook).
* Eaten what you made for the kids.
* Ordered for everyone. It’s not like you would have had to pay with your own money. Did you even *ask* your mother (or father) whether they would pay for you to order something for everyone?
YTA and if you hate your mom this much you should probably stop visiting her altogether. I hope she and your Dad are both as ashamed of you as this internet stranger is, but since you’ve grown into such a selfish person I’m guessing that you haven’t been held accountable for anything your entire life.
Truly, this displays an atrocious lack of empathy.
YTA. Your family had a legitimate medical emergency – yes a “single broken bone” is a big fucking deal. Of course your mom had to go with him, and of course his son would want to go with him – it’s his DAD.
They asked you to help out in a moment of crisis. Instead of helping out your FAMILY, you complained and said NO. That alone makes you an assohle. They weren’t asking you to miss an important school function or a big night out with friends so they could go to the movies or something. They asked you to watch your half-siblings because they were having a legitimate medical emergency. The answer to that is “yes, of course”. Not “no”, not “can you find someone else?”. Your dad is literally standing there with a broken bone and you’re asking them to find another babysitter?!? Are you kidding me?!
And then those kids ask you for food at dinner time – a perfectly normal request, and something you should have easily been able to handle. Your mom asked you to cook something and you said NO. Again, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! You can’t make some mac n cheese? Some pasta and sauce? Heat up a frozen meal? You didn’t even try. You just said “NO”.
Then you give hungry kids cereal for dinner and order food for yourself. That is absolutely psychotic behavior, honey. I know teenagers can be difficult, but holy crap, you are a whole other level. Please tell your parents that you need therapy. This isn’t normal. Your behavior isn’t normal, and you’re going to grow up pretty miserable when no one wants to be around you.
Yes, YTA. But not just because you ordered food for yourself and not your siblings. YTA for not immediately jumping in and OFFERING to babysit, let alone refusing to when asked. YTA for not cooking your siblings a proper meal. YTA for ordering food for yourself and not them.
Get your head out of your ass. You really really fucked up here and you’re going to have a really miserable life if this is how you go through it.