>!Been buying Christmas gift for my son’s bil’s son for years. He marries we aren’t invited. said too many people. They have a baby and not invited to baby shower. Sent a gift off their registry anyway. Should I buy Christmas gift for baby or stop buying for older son? !<
NTA. Honestly, I don’t think they’re looking for you to be a big part of their lives. It’s a personal opinion, but it seems pretty clear. I hope this doesn’t hurt you 😔
Thank you, I think you are right.
I think they have secret animosity towards you. they’re lame and weird for not being upfront, but it serves you best to leave them alone.
Thank you
I feel sorry for older boy
Your son, your brother-in-law, your son’s brother-in-law, or your son’s brother-in-law’s son? I don’t know who you’re talking about.
Am I following correctly that a “son’s brother-in-law’s son” just means the son’s nephew?
I think that is right, thanks for clearing up who is who.
I think it’s her son’s spouse’s brother’s son. She wasn’t invited to her son’s spouse’s brother’s wedding, which doesn’t seem unreasonable because it’s not a close relationship but it’s also not unreasonable for her to not buy his children gifts because it’s not a close relationship.
my son’s brother in law has a son I have always given a gift to at christmas.
I get you are likely feeling hurt about not being invited to their events but it sounds like it’s not personal, sometimes people already have a full social circle and don’t have the mental bandwidth and time to develop other relationships with people. I’m sure they like you find and appreciate the kindness you show the children with celebrating their milestones and gift giving but they see you as an acquaintance and not as an inner circle person.
Im assuming thst this is your daughter-in-laws btother, that you are refering to, It’s really lovely though that you have embraced your daughter-in-laws family as part of yours. I would continue to gift something small for each of her nieces/nephews at Christmas, if you financially can and have the time to shop for it. I’d however frame it as something kind to do for my daughter-in-law, as a show of love for her and also for the children because they are still st an age where Christmas is exciting and gifts are the greatest thing and it will bring them joy.
NAH, while I think it’s lovely that you have been buying gifts, it’s clear there is no close relationship there so you shouldn’t feel the need to keep buying gifts. My sisters in laws were not invited to my brother’s wedding nor will they be invited to mine. They’re lovely people, but their connection is to my sister and nieces and nephews not to me or my brother. We weren’t invited to their daughters wedding either and none of us buy gifts for each others children.