The story’s simple: My friend is a vaper, and they cannot live without smoking and/or vaping (they do both)
And I, who can’t even drink soda.
My friend offered me "just trying" a couple of times, and, not gonna lie, I tried. And it was shit.
The problem is, they started to ask me to keep their vape/vape aerosol (sorry, I don’t know how this liquid in vapes are called) in my bag/pockets. Because my parents don’t check my bag, since they know I’d rather drink tea than smoke. (We’re both minors)
I’m just afraid that my parents or teacher would one day find their vape in my things and would think it’s mine.
But… I didn’t want to give it back to them. They’re important for me, and they’re basically killing themselves with such amount of nicotine.
I just needed to tell someone about it.
Edited: I gave the vape back, though a day later.
You are NTA for not wanting them to vape. But you will be the ass it you do not give him his stuff back as its belongs to him
Don’t carry for them. The benefit of not doing those things is that you get to live a daily life without fear of getting in trouble for those things. Please do not carry for your friends. It’s such a fake sounding excuse to say you’re carrying for someone else once you inevitably get caught, just don’t let yourself get in that position in the first place. Cause you’ll be the one that gets in trouble. That said, the older you get the more you’ll realize that many people use substances to feel better, in some way that they truly need, because they’re carrying so much pain and/or curiosity inside. So, you’ll lose the judgmental tone about this stuff when you’re older. That said, don’t carry for your fucking friends of you don’t want to be eventually accused of imbibing.
Give the stuff back and tell them you won’t be keeping it for them.
NTA for wanting them not to vape, but if you don’t give it back then you will be as it is their stuff.
Nta for caring for your friend, but unfortunately you can’t police someone’s actions by stealing their stuff. They are making their choices to put toxic chemicals in their body. All you can do is give it back, express that you dont support it and that you won’t support it by holding their stuff anymore
What they do is up to them but dont carry their vape etc and just dont get involved
It’s not yours to keep. You should just say no to holding it for them.
Don’t do it.
Your question isn’t actually clear…
You would be an asshole for keeping their vape. Whether you approve or not that is their property, and they deserve to get it back.
You would not be an asshole for refusing to have anything to do with their vape and to refuse to keep it for them. That is their issue to deal with themselves.
Remember, you cannot force them to stop doing something you disapprove of, you can only guide appropriately from the edge – and in many cases, probably not even that without them getting annoyed at you. You just have to let them come to their own decisions.