I (36M) have Been friends with Nate (37M) since college, and we have a group with about 3 other guys.
We used to hang out often, Now though, we basicsllg never hang out with Nate. We all have busy lives but Nates wife is always making him do something with her, or he’s doing something with his kids basically every weekend.
I don’t understand why his wife can’t be with their kids for a few hours maybe once a month so we can grab drinks or something. He pretty much only hangs out with us maybe one every two or three months. Last time we talked, the conversation steered toward this mattrr, and I suggested that he should leave some things to his wife so we can hang out some more.
He said ”nah” but at least we scheduled another time. But he did say that I was being kind of disregardful.
aITA? My wife thinks I am wrong for saying that after I told her about it.
YTA he’s an adult and you’re interfering in his relationship for your benefit. It’s disrespectful.
YTA. Grow up.
YTA
He has a wife and kids. He wants to hang out with his wife and kids, like a family man is expected to do.
Maybe have a BBQ or something a bit more family friendly and he will bring his wife and kids.
He is not a single college student anymore.
YTA
there’s a chance he’d just rather be with his wife and kids than drinking with college buddies
YTA. He clearly wants to be an involved father and the majority of time with his family. You do not know what their life is like or what they may have planned. As people grow and mature so their priorities. This says more about you than him.
YTA- He is prioritizing his family and you’re being a rude about it. I’m sure you’ll make a great husband. 🙄
YTA. If he wanted to hang out with you then he would. He prefers his family. Simple.
YTA . You are telling your friend to be a worse father and husband so he can hang out more with you? No offense dude but if he wanted to make more time for hanging with friends he would. It sounds shockingly like your friend actually likes his wife and kids and wants to spend time with them. Especially if he is working during the week that is time to spend with his family. Spending time drinking with the boys from college is not going to take precedent.
yup, yta. telling a married friend how to split his family time is pretty disrespectful, even if you miss hanging out
Your poor wife. YTA
YTA
It’s interesting you think his wife is making him do something with her rather than thinking he’s actively choosing to hang out with his wife and kids.
And by interesting I mean you’re being an asshole
“…he’s doing something with his kids basically every weekend.”
So your friend is a good dad and husband, got it. YTA.
“My wife thinks I am wrong for saying that after I told her about it.”
Your wife is right and YTA.