I 18m have a close friend 18m who’s recently started, like just started days ago going out with this girl in our friend group who he’s close with.
It’s me and both of them hanging out together and talking. Topic of sex came up (not by me I’m not a weirdo asking them about what they’re doing) she just makes some insinuating comments about what they’ll be doing. I joke and say I hope she’s patient, she has to remember he takes his exams in the extra time room. Context being he’s a virgin, never even kissed someone before her and she was in a relationship for 2 years and definitely not in the same situation from what she’s said before. Also yes he does take his exams in the extra time room.
And that’s all fine we laugh, and she mentions that not bothering her. I then in a light hearted way ask if she’s sure because I think he’ll want baby stepped every bit of the way. I then told her about how not that long ago me and him were talking.
He admitted he was reading posts and articles and stuff, basically tutorials on what to do and they all mentioned foreplay and making sure she’s wet enough before doing anything that would need her to be. Tbf he asked it in a not very serious way. like this wasn’t a massive concern and he admitted it was maybe a stupid question because it’s probably an in the moment common sense thing but he said he wouldn’t know what wet enough… is and how you can tell which apparently none of these sources would mention. I found this hilarious and retold this story and they both laughed he seems embarrassed but in the fun way.
Later he had a REAL go at me about it like seemed both angry and a little upset almost. I told him at no point during that entire conversation did he stop me when he had every chance to.
he said it was obvious he wouldn’t have wanted me to say that. But we joke about each other even in front of people all the time so like how was I to know? Apparently i even knew I was being a dick but did anyway according to him which just isn’t true. Don’t think there was any way for me to predict he’d feel that way given the fact embarrassing jokes are usually okay.
Didn’t even finish, yup YTA
> And that’s all fine we laugh, and she mentions that not bothering her.
YTA. You should have quit then. You didn’t need to bring up other private conversations that you’d had with him to embarrass him.
> I then in a light hearted way ask if she’s sure because I think he’ll want baby stepped every bit of the way. I then told her about how not that long ago me and him were talking.
This was going too far.
YTA.
There’s no reason to go anywhere near any of that.
Yeah YTA. Don’t make your friends look stupid in front of people they like, c’mon. They trusted you to confide in, now drag out their insecurities for everyone
Dude. YTA.
Are you jealous of your friend?
Holy shit yes YTA
YTA. He shouldn’t have to stop you during a conversation. You should know better than to air out his personal business. Do better.
I can’t even finish reading this because what the fuck is going on with your English literacy 😭 before worrying about your mates’ sex life and feelings, please learn some grammar, as reading that made me feel like I was illiterate.
YTA- I honestly could barely finish this without cringing…
You, sir, are a SUPER asshole. Just go ahead and tell us all that you’re jealous.
YTA. You’re an awful jealous friend.
Sorry because you sound genuinely surprised that he was upset – but YTA.
Your friend confided in you about something he’s insecure about, and you turned it into a joke in front of his brand-new girlfriend. Even if everyone laughed, that doesn’t mean it didn’t sting. Sexual inexperience is a sensitive topic for a lot of people, and throwing his private questions back in his face, especially in front of someone he’s trying to impress, crosses the line.
Jokes about yourself are fair game. Jokes about things your friend trusted you with aren’t. He’s allowed to feel embarrassed, and you need to respect that.
YTA. You went out of your way to embarrass him….your ‘friend”. You better start checking yourself before you start losing friends.