I (F15) and my friend who I’m going to call A (M15) have been long distance friends for 4 years along with several other people (also long distance) Back in March, a new member joined who I’m calling M (F20). She’s really nice and she’s a really good artist. We all play roblox often. And she’s a lesbian. But I’ve recently noticed M getting really close with A. Like significantly. A and M match profile pictures, avatars, bios on EVERY social media platform/ game. the bios are really weird to me and I’m trying to tell myself it’s just jokes and giggles and nothing more. Because she’s a lesbian.
I recently confronted them both about it and basically called M a pedofile and someone who should not be friends with a bunch of fucking minors. A got angry at me and said “I was ruining her mind”. And we had a huge argument over it. It was all “M Didn’t know any better” and “we are just friends”
A few other people in this Gc do not approve of M being included. Another time, M was involved in a serious incident with a girl who I’ll call E (F15).she’s also one of my friends. E got too attached to M and M essentially enabled a lot of weird shit to unfold. I found out about this and I got really angry at M. But A defended M yet M is the adult and E is the minor…In the end, E got kicked out of the gc while everyone let a 20 year old stay.
I feel like I’m the one who’s taking things too far. And making a big deal out of it. Yet I feel like I’m the only one who’s doing the right thing. Was I in the wrong?
(Btw idk if I made it clear but M is the only adult in this gc. All of us are 14-16)
NTA. It is weird. When I was 20 I had zero interested in hanging out with 14-16 year olds. Particularly a 15 year old boy (I’m F, straight), I think it’s really suspicious. Fair enough casual chat but being really close, no.
My thoughts exactly, although I’m M, straight. I didn’t want to have anything to do with 14-16 year olds when I was 20. I think it’s very suspicious that a 20 year old wants to spend so much time with 14-16 year olds.
Also my thoughts. I am well over 20 but even back then I couldn’t think of anything worse than making friends with any 14-16 year old.
This is predatory/scammy behaviour.
NTA it’s strange an adult is talking to what to minors. Remove her from the group if you can, or start a new one excluding her completely. Keep an eye on your friend A as well.
NTA. It is completely reasonable to feel concerned. An adult becoming this close to minors, especially one, is often inappropriate.
That age gap is sketchy as hell. A 20 year old has no business matching pfps and bios with a 15 year old, lesbian or not. Trust your gut on this one.
NTA. Your concerns about a 20-year-old in a group chat of minors, especially with intense individual focus, are valid and important.
Do any of you have definitive proof that M is who they say they are? It’s relatively easy to impersonate people online. Trust your gut.
How do you know they’re really a 20yo? Sounds like predatory middle aged person type shit to me
NTA, but are you sure that M is 20?
If it was just to play a game I would think it wasn’t really concerning, but this M seems to attach herself to one person in particular atba time, which Is concerning. NTA.
Bro this is not cool at all. Why 20 year old girl playing roblox with kids? You did right thing calling her out 😡
When you are 20 years old yourself you are going to look back on this and realize how incredibly weird it is for someone in that stage of life and maturity to want to hang out with 15 year olds. Something is really not right here.
NTA and please be careful.
NTA a 20 year old has no business being close with a group of 14-16 year olds. How did this person get added in the first place? A college aged adult shouldn’t be interacting like this with young grade school/high school kids.