so for context this happened over a year ago i was 17 my sister was 21 her bf was 20 we were all living at my moms house thanksgiving of last year her bf got into a motorcycle accident and he lost some of his memories around 2 months later i get a text from her bf asking me to shovel the driveway for his new car and he said he give me his steering wheel for it because the one i got for Christmas didn’t work for my system so he was going to let me have it so i shovel the driveway for him and he gives me the wheel the next day around a month or 2 later since the accident happened he was out of work he texted multiple times asking for the steering wheel back because he wanted to sell it to his friend i told him i wasn’t giving it back to him because he said i could have he texts my mother saying hes going to have a problem with me and that i am stealing from him he said he was going to call the cops and have me arrested the cops called me i said i had proof of him saying i can have it and i had proof of him threatening me the cops said it is a civil matter the cop hung up i texted him saying im am not giving it back we can take it to court i didnt get anything for a court from him but my sister moved out and hasn’t said a word to me since then i have screenshots of everything if you would like to see please let me know i just wanna know if im in the wrong
NTA you can’t take back something you gave as a present you just can’t back off just cause you changed your mind
ESH. You’re 17 but when you deal with people to have to ensure they can consent, especially when high or drunk. If he’s having memory problems, I wonder what his capacity to be able to give consent is? How does that relate? He may have physically handed you something of his but did he know what he was doing or did he only piece it together from the texts you exchanged? I suggest selling it back to him for the value of the snow shovelling. Win-win.
he was able to give me verbal consent to in a place where my gf was there he was there and so was my sister he also was in multiple therapy which he completed before he gave me the steering wheel
Do you want your sister in your life or not? I’m not saying you have to sacrifice for her and this bf will eventually move on, but she’ll remember what you did. It may heal on its own or it may be permanent damage to your relationship. Or worse, one day they could get married.
i hope they dont get married or stay together hes rude and abused to her my moms had to kick him out the house multiple times because he’s breaking things and cussing her out i want to have a relationship with her but if shes with him i dont want anything to do with it
The question is will she want a relationship with you if he moves on one day? I don’t need an answer, just reflect on that.
He’s not going to sue you, because it’s not worth the time and expense. He could take you to small claims court, where you represent yourself, so just keep a copy of your evidence that he gave it to you in exchange for work. At small claims court, both sides just talk to the judge and present their evidence; you don’t need a lawyer. It is extremely unlikely he would go to small claims, but just keep your evidence in case.
i will i haven’t heard from either of in over a year i just wanted to know if i did something wrong
Info, please
Your steering wheel didn’t work with your system? A game console steeing wheel set up? Or a car?
its a gaming console streeing wheel he gave it to me because the one i got for Christmas didn’t work for my xbox something was wrong with the cable
YTA for your lack of punctuation but not for the steering wheel.
YTA for all that word vomit