I have one short break between back to back classes on certain days. I use that time to return to my dorm, rest for a bit, change clothes, or finish small tasks. It is the only hour I get to reset before the next long lecture.
A classmate who is not close to me overheard me saying I was going to my dorm to nap. She followed me out of the building and said she wanted to nap too since her boarding house was far. I told her I could not bring guests to my room, and I was not comfortable letting someone I barely knew stay in my personal space.
She said she would just lie down for a short time and would not bother anything. I still said no since we have dorm rules and I share the room with someone else. She got frustrated and said I was being too strict.
The next week, she tried again. This time she said she just wanted to sit in the room to cool down. I repeated that I could not allow guests. Later I heard she was telling others that I acted like rest was something only I was allowed to have.
I really do not think it is wrong to protect my space and follow the dorm rules.
AITA for not letting her nap in my dorm?
NTA. You barely know her, and you’re following rules. Nobody is stopping her from resting, just not in your space. Tell her to go to her car.
NTA, that is just incredibly entitled and creepy behaviour by the other person. Even with zero dorm rules, you do not have to let anyone into your space you don’t want to have there.
You’re NTA. You barely know this person. For her to cop an attitude because you decline her demand to use your room as her napping spot is wildly entitled.
Letting someone you barely know into your room alone with you is also sets you up being targeted with false accusations. It’s smart to protect yourself from that.
NTA! I wouldn’t want someone I barely know sleeping on my bed and definitely not on my roommate’s bed. Most schools have at least one lounge where commuters can hang out in until their next class. If she has a car, she can relax in her car. If she lives on campus, then she needs to go to her own room.
If she asks again, tell her if she wants to relax so bad that she needs to try to get into a dorm close to her classes for next semester or else she can do what others do and go to that one quiet building on campus to relax if she doesn’t want to hang out in a commuter lounge.
NTA – your acquaintance is one though. Though unless you go to a really strict school where noone is allowed to have friends over you gave a really shite excuse. You don’t need an excuse. No is more than enough. I want to come over and nap. No. Why not, because I said no. Walk away.
Next week, walk into the lecture after the break in your pj’s saying you almost over slept you had that good a nap.
NTA, because it is entirely reasonable and necessary to protect ur limited privacy and follow dorm rules.
Hahaha wtf is with peoples entitlement? You don’t owe this classmate anything, especially not your living space. That is your safe space. I’m not welcome at my BFF house because her BF don’t like me, and Idgf about being all salty over it, just is how it is. Not my house and not welcome. Respecting people’s “NO” without an explanation is the normal healthy thing to do. This classmate needs to leave you alone and I’d talk to campus security and say that they are harassing and following you. They sound like they want to get in and steal your things. ‼️Stranger Danger ‼️ NTA
Some people are completely oblivious to social norms and basic manners.
NTA She can rest in her own room if she must.
This is the behavior of a predator trying to push their way into someone’s home before victimizing them. NO means NO. Its a complete sentence. Whenever someone tries to bully or push their way into your home double down. Id have literally said f off. They are manipulative and can’t be trusted. Probably a thief.
NTA
Seriously, when are people going to learn, just because someone has it doesn’t mean YOU get to have it too.
Side note: as many repeat here, forever a true statement, “no” is a complete sentence. Anyone in your life who doesn’t know this, doesn’t need to be in your life.
NTA. But, she is semi right only *YOU* are allowed rest in *YOUR* room. If she wants to rest, she can go elsewhere.
You did nothing wrong, but I’m just curious: what kind of school do you go to that doesn’t allow you to bring anyone to your own room?
Has she never heard of a library? Classic napping location.
NTA