My wife is lactose intolerant, and her farts smell absolutely \*awful\* and linger for hours. She doesn’t eat lactose often, but when she does it is terrible. In general, I am OK with this, as I would rather she can enjoy food if she wants to. I love her, and I can put up with them – with some complaining (as they are absolutely dreadful. I honestly dread that smell, it’s too much.)
What annoys me though is that she just does it without caring. In general, she will fart at any time, any place, within the house. She just says she has to fart, and she’s at home. That’s OK – but it’s when they \_stink\_ like this that it’s an issue. I’m past any concept that it’s disrespectful, it is her home. But it’s the \_consequences\_ that bother me – the smell, and how long it lasts – doesn’t modify her behaviour at all. At least do it in the other room!
Last night, she stank out BOTH of the bedrooms upstairs, and the only way I could have anywhere to sleep was by opening multiple windows up there for 15 minutes, and this was at 10pm at night. I was sleeping in the spare room, and she got in that bed to read with our daughter and (according to my daughter, who came down before I went to bed to complain about the smell that had been left) she farted three time in there, before going off to get in bed in the main room – where it smells even worse.
I did yell – about it stinking up there, telling her to sleep in the other room where the smell was (before I instantly realised it smelt in both rooms), and that’s it not cool to bomb out both bedrooms like that).
This morning, she’s unhappy that I yelled before I had to open the windows. We didn’t argue, that was it – I just yelled once about it. She’s unrepentant about this, and I know it will happen again. I suspect I;m not making any headway in this topic with her, because I can be really upset when it smells. After all this time, I’m just so sick of it. I don’t mind it smelling – just try and keep the smell elswhere? If you sit next to me on the couch, and do it repeatedly, knowing it smells – and my asking her not to doesn’t stop her doing it – what else do I do, but loudly express my unhappiness?! AITA?
NTA.
She is being rude and inconsiderate. I get that it’s “her house” and she wants to feel comfy, but other people live there.
Have y’all tried candles? They burn off some of the methane that causes the smell. It does make a difference. Not that that gives her license to fart up all the bedrooms.
If she put a candle near her arse, she might become a human flame thrower lol
NTA. Your wife is. It’s common courtesy to not stink up shared spaces, especially when she knows she has vile lactose stinkers. The fact that she continues unrepentantly shows that she is actively disregarding you.
NTA. This isn’t “haha everyone farts” territory, this is biochemical warfare at home. She knows lactose wrecks her stomach and she still drops bombs in every room like it’s nothing. Asking her to at least step into another room isn’t cruel, it’s basic respect for shared space. Yelling wasn’t ideal, but you were pushed past your limit. You need an actual convo about boundaries and maybe cutting back on the dairy torture.
Biochemical warfare I am screaming 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah this is disgusting and disrespectful behaviour. I’d have yelled as well. She needs to take enzymes or not eat dairy. Just gross.
NTA. Your wife is being highly inconsiderate. If she needs to fart, she should do it away from people. Yes, it’s her home, but that doesn’t mean you and your daughter should have your senses assaulted because your wife lacks basic respect
I think I blacked out while reading that. She farted in the daughter’s bed 3 times?
How is this acceptable? Given I’m coming from a different upbringing where I never heard any of my family members fart, how can she fart this freely? Doesn’t she think “maybe this won’t be just gas” and feel the need to use the restroom?
Dude, get her some lactose pills so she pops one before she eats anything with dairy.
You know you can get stuff that helps out with that right? Lactaid or lactease, something like that from memory. My best mate is lactose intolerant and if he can’t resist eating cheese he just takes one and doesn’t inadvertently commit a war crime on his wife that evening. That said, if she’s showing such little regard for others already she may just not bother taking it as you do have to take it basically right before you eat cheese or whatever.
NTA. Yes she is at home, but she doesn’t live alone. To crop dust both bedrooms at bedtime is super inconsiderate to everyone else, as is making no attempt herself to mitigate the stench (she could easily have opened a window, lit a candle or used air freshener after she did it) . Yelling is never the answer though
Nta AT ALL. If she wants to eat dairy and fart at her leisure she needs to consider the other people in the home who have to breathe and contain herself to one area of the house. She sounds completely selfish and immature. I can’t even imagine expecting anyone to have to smell me like that WTF.
My ex-husband had the stinkiest farts (his whole family did-weird). The only time I threw up when I was pregnant was when we were in the car and he let one loose. I had to pull over and puke in the gutter. The two things I do not miss about him–the snoring and the farting.
Your wife is being inconsiderate. Yes, it’s her house, but itvis a shared space. These micro-aggressions can develop into major issues if they aren’t addressed. Best of luck to you.
This is a solvable problem
1) prevention: Lactaid is cheap over the counter and helps people digest lactose. You can even buy them “on the go” with little tear pouches she could keep in her purse.
2) air freshener. There is this thing called “Medi-aire” that is specifically for biological odors and is unscented. They use it in hospitals but is also sold on Amazon.