Today I was at the grocery store looking for a specific kind of juice, and while I was browsing a lady wearing a mask and a hat walked up to me and asked me to put some orange juice back for her.
I looked at where the orange was, and it down at the end of the aisle in the middle of the shelf, completely within her reach. If it was too high for her I would have done it, but she was clearly capable and it seemed like an unnecessary request.
I said, “no, you can put it back” and she replied “oh I just thought maybe you could do something nice.” and as she was walking away she looked back and called me a jerk. Because she was wearing a mask I couldn’t tell how old she was initially, but her voice sounded like an older person.
By being in public did I owe her this favor? It seemed like an entitled request and an unnecessary insult
NTA. You aren’t (I assume) a store employee, you aren’t her family member or a friend who was shopping with her. She was clearly fully ambulatory. You were in no way obligated to put the juice back for her.
NTA
If she could take it off the shelf, she can put it back
If you’re too frail to shop, most places in the US provide delivery or at least curbside pickup. Absent a sudden medical emergency (in which case she could’ve just put down the orange juice), I can’t imagine why she couldn’t put it back herself, or why she’d ask someone else to do it for her. Wow. NTA.
NTA. Repost this under r/IDontWorkHereLady.
Some people are so desparate for human interaction that this kind of thing is the best they can do.
None of this was about you, so don’t let it bother you.
NTA
It’s happened to me before and I replied that I didn’t work there. Maybe for some reason she thought you did? If not, it was an odd encounter. Nta.
*It seemed like an entitled request and an unnecessary insult*
It was. NTA
NTA This reminds me of the time I was in a very rich area of Toronto with a prominent black artist and a white guy saw him with me and asked him to help carry his bags. So awkward, but I like scoffed no, we’re on a date, it was so degrading because I knew he was so embarrassed and didn’t want to have to make a scene where his clients may see. We talked trash about him after, though. Jealous loser.
No your not 🤣 I’m 4’9 and i absolutely refuse to ask someone I don’t know for help I’ll get another product it is bold to call a random person A hole to their face
I’m 5’1 and will absolutely ask for help if I can’t reach something. I don’t mind if someone says no tho 🤷🏼♀️
It is crazy to get mad about someone not wanting to help you!
NTA but it is quite possible if she was elderly that she was in a lot of pain and that walking that far does put her out that it had nothing to do with reaching up. Or it’s possible that she had bad shoulders and reaching even to just level can be excruciatingly painful. It’s just hard to say because people can’t see the pain that we elderly have. So they tend to assume it’s not there.
Of course you don’t owe anyone anything ever. No one owes you anything ever.
You cannot tell what anyone anywhere is capable of physically just by looking at them. You cannot. You admit you didn’t even know her age.
She was wearing a mask. It’s possible she was ill and not just wearing it for protection. It’s possible those 20 feet hurt every frickin’ step of the way for that or a condition you couldn’t see. It’s possible she was healthy and just entitled.
I personally would rather do something kind for someone who I thought needed help then feel smug I didn’t waste 30 seconds for someone who didn’t need it, especially because I wouldn’t know for sure they didn’t. You don’t know now which it was.
Should she have called you a jerk? No.
Maybe you’re bothered enough by this to come here because you know those 30 seconds and 20 feet wouldn’t have cost you anything if she really needed the help.
This here. I don’t see the issue in helping out a fellow human being. Not every request is entitled. If she’s masked maybe she just had surgery and can’t lift her arm.
I’m a rather short, older (62), woman who has recently become disabled to where I use an electric cart in stores. Occasionally if I need something off the very top shelf I’ll ask a taller person if they’d hand it to me. If no one is around or what I need is on a lower shelf I just stand briefly and get what I need. Or I go find an employee to please help me. I simply cannot imagine asking someone to put something back for me when it was something I got off the shelf with no help.
NTA.