I (F24) have only recently just moved into a new house back in June with my disabled son who is 5.
Ever since I moved into this house I have a neighbour who also moved in the same time as me as these are new build houses, let’s call her “G”. I know of her by name as I live in a small town where everyone has heard or knows one another through people or acquaintances. At first I always said hello whenever I saw her and she seemed nice until she saw my boyfriend come to visit often and noticed who he was. They went to school together as she was a year or 2 above him and she never really liked him much.
Suddenly one day, I get a call from social services claiming someone had filed an anonymous report that my boyfriend is a drug dealer, people are always in and out of my house and does drugs in front of my son which is insane as he’s a welder and works 39 hours a week and does overtime. The only people who visit are my friends on the rare occasion and my family visit a lot. I was absolutely baffled and even hurt someone could make up such a malicious lie. We brushed it off and tried to laugh about it as it was a ridiculous claim.
A few weeks later, another report had been made anonymously. For context, my mother dropped off my learner car to my house as I had been staying with her before I moved into my new house and I hadn’t drove it in a few months and still haven’t since it’s been on my drive. The report had been said I’ve been driving a car with my child inside with no car seat which was insane. I also don’t have a license only a provisional which means I can only drive with someone in the passenger seat who has passed their driving test in the last 4 years. Any car I go into whether that’s my mothers or fathers, my son has his own car seat in their vehicles.
Last week, my partner came over to visit and cut the bottom corner of her drive to get to my door as she was still sat on her car on the drive. She reversed and parked into the spot of the bottom corner he crossed. He didn’t walk directly over her drive either, which was a bit baffling as it wouldn’t have bothered me if a neighbour did that on the bottom corner of my driveway.
I had reported these malicious reports to the police and luckily I haven’t had any since but whenever I have seen “G” she has refused to look at me or even say hello like she used to and quite frankly I don’t want to look or speak to her either after this. AITAH for not wanting to be friendly with her?
NTA…you deserve kudos for literally doing the most harmless thing possible to this woman. Not many women would have that kind of self-restraint.
I wanted to take a steaming dump on her driveway in all honesty lmao, but I did the right thing😂
nta some live in the past, some wander into the future, then there is the rest of us who live in the now. your neighbor lives in the past. be well
NTA – get a restraining order. I dealt with a jealous former friend like this and it will only get worse when their tactics aren’t having the affect on you that they want
Sorry that you are going through this.
To add – if you open up a police case – and you can provide evidence that there are false claims against you and defamation- the police could contact social services etc to get information on who submitted the false reports
Thank you, it is logged with the police and the did say if more are made then to contact them again. Luckily I haven’t had any since September 🙂
Great. Hoping it just stops
My issue lasted a year and the sick fuck started sending malicious emails to people from burner accounts under my name because nothing else he was doing was working
That’s terrible! I really hope you sorted it. Some people are so sick…
You have far more patience than me. NTA
NTA, but I feel like we are missing a lot of information (not from you OP… from your bf and G). WHY doesn’t G like him? And she hates him so much that she called in a false CPS report on you? There’s definitely more going on here than just “she didn’t like him much.”
She has it out for you because she doesn’t like your boyfriend? If she keeps this up you could use the false claims as slander and harassment. NTA
Of course you’re NTA. I’m surprised you even need to ask, because you said:
*whenever I have seen “G” she has refused to look at me or even say hello like she used to*
… so if she’s already not talking to you, then why on earth would you WANT to be friendly? Why on earth would you consider yourself the asshole if you’re not friendly to her?
Your dilemma makes no sense at all. You’re merely agreeing to the “I don’t want anything to do with you” attitude that she’s giving you. I genuinely do not understand why you’re here asking for a judgment.
Have the police confirmed she is the person making the malicious reports to them?
If so, it’s not AITA you need. It’s a lawyer.
If she makes one more malicious report, or gives you any more unjustified and unprovoked trouble, get a lawyer to draw up a cease and desist letter. You may even have a case for defamation, but a court case would involve considerable time and expense, with no guarantee you’d win. A stern lawyer’s letter threatening her with a defamation suit may do the job and would be a lot cheaper.
Just be sure it really is her making the reports. A suspicion is not enough.
NTA and if you don’t already, get cameras. She might escalate behavior if she doesn’t get her way.
Funny enough I’ve just received permission to have a ring doorbell so will be putting one up asap. She also has a camera in her living room window