Hey everyone bare with me as this is a bit of a long story.
I guess I’ll start with some content, my (24F) mother (52F) has a Christmas village along with a bunch of other decorations that my sister (27F) and I always set up together. It was something that her and I would bicker over (as siblings do) about who was allowed to set what up. It was one of my favourite things about that holidays to set this Christmas village up.
Now that I’m an adult living with my boyfriend (26M) we have gotten our own Christmas village over the last 5 years that we set up together. My boyfriend also had a village growing up so he cherishes the village as well. The village that we have currently is an assortment of pieces that were either given to us or bought from others etc.
Now on to the main story. Recently my mom messaged my sister and I stating that she was going to be getting rid of some of her Christmas decorations and that if we wanted anything before she did that to let her know. I immediately told my mom that if she was getting rid of anything that I would like the village stuff and my mom told me that she was already planning on giving it to me because my sister most likely wouldn’t want it.
Fast forward to Saturday morning at 7am my mom messaged me and “you get half the village your sister wants some.”
Now the problem that I haven’t that she wants some it’s that she got to PICK exactly which pieces she wanted and I got the leftovers and my mom deemed that fair.
When I expressed that we should’ve been able to pick at least one by one so we both got some we wanted my mom told me I was overreacting, because my sister didn’t already have a village she says she got to pick.
My sister picked the only piece I really wanted which was a barn and I do not have a barn in my set but she gave me the church and I already have 2.
My moms excuse for this was that she didn’t know wha I already had and I stated that a simple face time video would’ve solved the whole issue, my mother then hung up on me, so AITA for being upset?
NTA for being disappointed in how things were gifted. However these items were your mom’s, and she can choose how she wants to distribute them. If your sister won’t trade for the church, just sell it and use the proceeds to buy the barn.
NAH. Your sister was probably just there helping/visiting and asked about the village so your mom let her pick what pieces she wanted.
Not everything is an attack. You’re allowed to be upset, but be a grown up about it. Just ask your sister if you could please have the barn and offer her the church in exchange. If she doesn’t want to trade or give it to you, just go get a barn for your village. It’s not that big of a deal.
YTA – You are 24 and you are picking fights over a Christmas village. Grow up.
It’s not yours to decide how it is partitioned, your sister doesn’t have one and you have one already, as long as it’s not being thrown out does it really matter!!!
My thoughts exactly. Like why do you have this much drama when you are an adult.
Well, your mom got upset enough that she hung up on you. Unless she is typically a drama queen you may possibly did enough to genuinely hurt her feelings. We weren’t privy to the conversation so it is hard to tell.
When I said to her that all she had to do was phone me she said “I don’t want to hear it” and hung up the phone, she doesn’t really do confrontation well or conflict well at all
Like mother like daughter evidently!
NAH.
How would they know what you have? Yeah it sucks that you didn’t get a say, but you also had your own village.
Contact your sister and calmly explain that the one piece that you want is the barn and you don’t have one. Tell her that your feelings were hurt that you were left out of the choosing process, so you’d really like to get the barn and, in trade, give more pieces to her. Just communicate like an adult and hopefully your sister can do the same. If she won’t budge, tell your mom that you would really like her to pick up a similar one for you as your Christmas gift.
I have tried to reach out to my sister regarding the whole thing as politely as I could, I even told her she could have some of the pieces in my village (as I already have 1-2 duplicates) to help set her up with one but that pretty much the only piece I’m missing is the barn. However we don’t talk much and she has yet to answer me