I brought my own packaged vegan food to a family get together at my grandma’s house.
She does try to make sure there are vegan options for me, but sometimes she misses the mark. Example: salad with non-vegan dressing and fried potatoes. So that day I only ate fried potatos.
The food was only a "back up" in case that happened again. She was pretty mad when she saw i had brought it, i tried to explain but she said it was rude and that she always makes sure i have enough to eat. (She *tries* to make sure, but it doesn’t always work out)
In the past i have offered to cook some vegan dishes together. She said no one is allowed in the kitchen with her.
I don’t know how else to deal with this, was what I did really rude?