We have a friend from a different state visiting so we invited the friend plus another to come over and try out my new VR set, which they were really excited about.
On the day of, my girlfriend was cleaning and hit her eye on the corner of a table. She couldn’t open her eye and tears were streaming out of it, but said it was no big deal and kept the plans because she didn’t want to disappoint the friend and miss out on time together.
Hours later when friends arrived, they saw her and told her to go to the hospital. She decided to help get them set up with the VR set, told me to keep them entertained, and took a ride share to urgent care. She came home after midnight and it turns out that she ripped her cornea open and had to go to the emergency optometrist.
She sat down on the couch to hang out with us so I continued entertaining the guests until they left and we cleaned up. It’s the next morning and our roommate says I’m an asshole for staying home and playing video games with friends. AITA?
YTA. Duh.
100% YTA. Why would you think you’re NOT?
Yes.
YTA
You’re seriously that dense? She bashed her head on the coffee table hard enough to not be able to open her eye and you shrugged it off? Huge YTA… There’s one thing you can do for her to make it up, though. Let her dump you.
Yta
Why tf wouldn’t your want to be with your gf? It sounds like your didn’t even check in with her while she was gone?
Jfc, do you really not give a single fuck about her?
YTA! You should have sent your friend home and went with her.
If your girlfriend gets hurt and your immediate thought isn’t to check on her and make sure gets help she needs then she deserves better you are the a hole and a huge one
YTA
Accidents and events happen that sometimes mess up our plans.
Your girlfriend should be with someone willing to put her health and comfort over video games.
YTA … wow…
YTA. Your lack of empathy and concern is staggering.
Wow. Makes me wonder what your girlfriend’s upbringing was like, because that sounds like it was an obviously serious injury, and she prioritized not disappointing people over seeking urgently needed medical care. I’ve had minor cornea scratching a couple times, it’s excruciating, so I can only imagine how much pain your girlfriend was in with what sounds like a much more serious eye injury. Were/are her parents abusive? Has she been taught to be a severe people-pleaser?
I suppose I’m wondering what the heck you were thinking, too. What kind of person witnesses someone they love take a serious injury and decides that playing with their new VR setup with their friends is more important than taking their partner to get medical care? Who would let their partner take a ride share alone to get care for that kind of injury unless they had some kind of severe limitation that prevented them from going with their partner?
Yes, YTA, but both of you had rather scarily dysfunctional responses to a serious injury that should have had you both wanting immediate medical care for her.
“Am I the AH for ignoring my injured gf and opting to play with my friends for the night?”
Just the fact that you had to ask this indicates that YTA 100%.
YTA – Dude, no. Get a fucking clue.
I actually don’t understand anyone’s behaviour here.
Why didn’t you *want* to be with your girlfriend? Why did you let her get an Uber to the hospital instead of taking her yourself? How could you just sit there playing games all night, knowing she was sitting in emergency all by herself?
And your friends didn’t think anything of your girlfriend taking herself to emergency? They were quite content to just hang out playing games as well? I would have been horrified and would have offered to go with her myself, seeing you apparently didn’t think it was necessary.
I also don’t know why your girlfriend suggested the ride share to begin with but she sounds like an extreme people pleaser, given your guests were her priority over an obvious eye injury.
Anyway, YTA.