I was enjoying a nice night out with my friends or so i thought. it started out with five of us going to this event in our town, while we were there one of my "friends" bf joins us halfway through the event.
we were all having a good time and had later plans to go and watch this new movie in the theatre. we left the event and decided to go get dinner at a restaurant. while we were there i noticed that my friend’s bf was texting someone on his phone and smiling and my friend then looked at his phone and got a bit visibly upset, REMEMBER THIS bc this is important.
dinner ended and we all made our way to the movies where we all purchased our tickets. we all picked our seats and made it into the theatre, i went to go sit in the seat that i paid for when one of my friends says "oh this seat is for someone else" i then asked who? and got no reply i then started to enter a flow state where i pieced it all together.
I then asked " is this seat for so and so" we will call so and so "sally". sally is somebody that i was really good friends with until we got into a relationship that ended on iffy terms however we decided to remain friends, nothing bad happened it was just not working out. however a week prior to this whole movie fiasco she had said that hanging out with me would be too much. EVERYBODY KNEW THIS BTW…
flash forward to now where my friends response was "yeah…" i then asked why they would invite her and i got no response. I then turned to my roommate and asked the same question, she said that she didnt know until 5 minutes ago that sally would be there and that she had no part in it. TURNS OUT my friend’s bf had invited sally but left out the part that i was there. (thats who he was texting during dinner btw).
nobody was even looking me in the eyes none the less answering my questions. I sat down and thought for a second, I knew that sally probably didnt know i was going to be there and that this would be an awkward interaction for the both of us and neither of us would be able to enjoy the movie. I was also really pressed that my "friends" would pull one over on me like this. I thought that what they did was a bit selfish and inconsiderate to both sally and i’s feelings. I was very frustrated and got up and left. my "friends" asked where i was going and i said bathroom. i went to the bathroom and called my best friend who agreed that what they did was messed up and they came to pick me up.
NOBODY had texted or called asking where i went or if i was okay. in the end i guess they got to hangout with the friend that they actually wanted to. i also learned that afterwards they were all saying that i was being dramatic and making a big deal of nothing but they not only blind sided me but sally aswell.
im not expecting anyone to apologize but also NO ONE HAS APOLOGIZED…
idk the whole thing just seemed super fake and disrespectful, so AITAH for leaving the movie?
NTA. Go LC with the ones that knew about this deception, at least until they apologize.
thats what ive been doing but they dont seem to care or notice.
Give it time. They are trying to sweep their bad behavior under the rug rather than address the issue.
NTA that was messed up of them, but also why did the friends bf invite her? were the other people in on it too? this is bizzare. i wonder if sally is hoping for a second chance with you and the friends are trying to facilitate it?
i doubt that sally wanted a second chance, the way things ended left no possibilities for anything to happen and they all knew that.
Your friends are just disrespectful, im glad your true friend picked you up
NTA. Time for you to find new friends
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Nta new year new friends 💕
NTA. If your friends knew that you and Sally were not up to hanging together, your friends, particularly the bf, were TA to both you AND Sally. It’s also unfair for them, knowing your and Sally’s situation, to expect you two to just “hang” after being tricked into it. I might’ve been more clear about why I was leaving the theater but your decision to leave was totally justified.
NTA, but why give Sally that much power over you. Maybe it’s time to get over it.
NTA but also read the room.
They would choose her over you.
Time to move on.
NTA would’ve done the good ol’ Irish goodbye
NTA That was messed up. But why did your friend’s boyfriend even invite her? Were the others in on it?