This isn’t the first time I refused my best friend of 12 years to meet her current boyfriend. She has the habit of changing partners very quickly which is due to her naive nature (this is not me bashing her, just a fact) and not seeing someone for who they are.
She has had a couple boyfriends before that I refused to meet since she always told me strange things about these men (basically all red flags) and I couldn’t see myself wanting to meet them, especially if she was gonna change her partner after a few months again.
She also has a habit of talking about me to her boyfriends and telling them stuff that is personal to me. I have asked her many times not to talk about my fears and just private stuff and she always waved me off and not taking me seriously.
She’s currently dating a psychology major and is raving about how sensitive and perfect he is, like she always does when having a new partner. Important to know is that I’ve been in therapy for several years due to anxiety disorders and I naturally tell her about my problems since we’re best friends. I know she thinks she’s helping by telling her boyfriend about my disorders and everything that happens in my therapy sessions to get advice but I have a therapist for that. I’ve reminded her again that I do not want her to tell her boyfriend and that I feel uncomfortable but she hasn’t stopped. At this point I stopped telling her about my personal feelings generally which is not the point of a friendship in my opinion.
She now wants me to meet him at her birthday dinner but I refused because I feel so uncomfortable about this stranger knowing about my insecurities and trauma and she is hurt, which I can understand a little, but she has disregarded my boundaries and wishes multiple times and I don’t feel comfortable looking him in the face knowing that he knows about some of my most vulnerable parts that I didn’t willingly gave away. AITA?