I [32 F] just started seeing someone [30 M] and we had sex for the first time without a condom and I wanted him to pull out. He did however now he is saying he wants to cum inside of me because it “feels better” and although I know that’s true I do not want that. I’m on birth control but still paranoid. he says that he doesn’t want to have sex and is willing to wait until I am more comfortable with the idea because it’s hard to “control”. And he doesn’t want to lose control and be dishonest and it accidentally happen and then me be mad. He says he rather go without. Is this manipulation or is he being honest and have good intentions?
This guy is a fucking clown lol, manipulation. He’s lucky he gets to hit it without a condom at all. Anyone can pull out, it isn’t rocket science and it barely takes anything away from it. He’s just selfish.
Edit: Lot’s of actual ape brained idiots in this thread
Call his bluff. Let him go without it.
It feels better until you’re having kids you aren’t prepared for.
Or have a disease.
They already had raw sex ..?
You don’t always catch an STD on the first go… also, he may be doing it with other people, so you never know.
If OP hasn’t asked her boyfriend to get tested prior to all this, she’s not all that worried about diseases obviously.
HA. Do not sleep with that guy again lol. Tf is he talking about?😂😂😂
Does it matter? You are having unprotected sex with him already. He is telling you what’s gonna happen if you fuck him again. So if you fuck him again he is gonna cum inside you.
If you get mad he will say it was an accident.
If you don’t he will do it every time going forward.
So decide if you are gonna cave on this or not and own the results young lady
Buh what is this? Is this…. accountability?
No, OP doesn’t want that. She wants all her decisions to be based on this guy or a bunch of internet randos. Not herself though. No way.
I can guarantee you he shot the first 10 percent of his load before he “pulled out” anyhow
100% manipulation he will absolutely have an “accident” when you let him.
Rubber up, this is more than just stopping babies.
In what way would this be manipulative. He’s literally said that he doesn’t want to risk it, until you’re comfortable with it. So he won’t risk it. He isn’t going to take all the responsibility of it if/when something goes wrong.
Also if you’re banging without a condom but you’re scared about contraception failing, it might be worth looking into it more. He doesn’t need to ejaculate to get you pregnant
You’re on birth control but still worried about pregnancy? Fair enough. But why are you relying on the pull out method?
You can ask advice from the thousands and thousands of parents how reliable the pull out method is. If you’re that worried you’d be using a condom.