I met this beautiful young woman doing Door Dash. We have a lot in common and she also does Door Dash when she’s not working at the McDonald’s I frequently pickup at.
I’ve been catching a vibe from her as she’s always been sweet to me and complimentary as of late. I ran into her one night and got her number. Later that same night she called me and we talked for 20 minutes about some deep stuff. Before the conversation was over she asked me if I wanted to meet her for breakfast tacos as we were near each other. I said yes and we met soon after.
She paid for me while I was in the restroom which surprised me. We had some more deep conversation as well as light hearted and funny conversation. We ended up talking there for about an hour and a half, and I hugged her goodbye.
The next day I texted her that I enjoyed our time together and we should do it again, my treat. She agreed and we had a tentative meetup. It fell through because she’s quite busy and has a small daughter. She mentioned a rain check and “talk soon”. That was last Monday.
I’ve seen her at McDonald’s a few times now and neither of us have brought up seeing each other again and I haven’t texted her since. She’s has definitely been happy to see me at McDonald’s because when I’m at the order menu the first thing I hear is “Helllllloooooooooo” in a cute semi-baby voice. (The last three nights I’ve been there) she’s even playfully said “No, nope, don’t have anything here for you to pick up!” In a flirty bratty type way.
Help me out guys! How much should I be texting her or how much should I be trying to get a second date? She’s pretty busy with work and training for a triathlon.
Show her attention, but don’t be sending 10 messages between her responses. If she’s actually interested she’ll show it.
As much as you feel like, dude. She’s a person, not a German enigma machine. If you’re interested, stay engaged. That said, if you find that you aren’t getting the same energy back, THEN it’s time to cool it a bit.
Generally – you should message how you feel, then adjust as the conversation demands. Pick up on their texting style and find a compromise.
Stop second guessing and just ask her again.
Less is more, too much can be exactly that
Can confirm too much can be too much
You should text her to ask her out. And then keep it minimal at the beginning.
But you also shouldn’t wait more that a week
When you speak to her next time look her right in the eye and say “when are we going to hang out agai?” and smile. Keep eye contact and wait. If she stalls smile and say okay we can figure it out next time. She does dig you so this will be her moment to set it up.
Also as a grown ass man this young dance stuff is both amusing, enraging, and humbling. Took everything in my might to not say “STOP BEING A LITTLE” Lol. All jokes man im pretty sure this just requires a tiny push.
Text when you feel like it. But don’t machine gun. If you send 1 or 2 and get nothing back, let it breathe. And don’t hassle her over how often she texts. I’m flirting with a woman now who basically has a 45 minute window to text each evening. Once she’s done, I might send one more and then I let it rest. But I wouldn’t want a backlog of a half dozen unanswered texts. Looks desperate and sad.
Oof, single mother. This means she might not have too much time for you. Make the effort and text her or better yet call. If she continues to not have time to respond, maybe it might not work out. Though her paying for your food and being enthusiastic when seeing you is a plus. I’d say play it out for a little longer.
Just relax and let her talk to you if she wants to.
She’s got a kid and two jobs, there are probably baby daddy issues, she’s a busy girl.
Be flattered she made as much time as she did for you so far. You are not gonna feel like her top priority because you won’t be. Ever. (At least you shouldn’t be if she is a good mother)
Shes a single mom, shes burned one man already, be careful. She probably was actually on a date with another dude and used that as an excuse
Dude it’s almost the weekend. Just text her and ask her out. If she wants to, she will say yes. If not, you know to look elsewhere.