This situation actually occurred a few months ago but it’s something that I can’t stop thinking about.
An (ex) friend of mine who lived out of state had been facing several challenges in life that made it extremely difficult for us to see each other. Without going into too much detail, many of these challenges were due to her poor decision making, and me visiting her would have put me in a very scary/ uncomfortable situation.
Towards the end of our friendship I stopped sharing the fun and exciting parts of my life because I didn’t want to upset her, but one day i finally told her about two vacations I had planned on taking, and how proud of myself I was for making it happen. At first I thought she was happy for me but a few days later she flipped out on me saying how she doesn’t understand why I won’t come see her but I’m going on vacation. I explained the reason I didn’t want to come (because I didn’t feel it was a safe situation) and this made her even more upset.
I understood where she was coming from. Maybe a part of me really wasn’t prioritizing our friendship the way I thought I was, but at the same time I worked hard to make a good life for myself and don’t want to feel bad about that.
AITAH in this situation?