I’ve been second-guessing myself a lot lately. It’s like my brain keeps replaying every tiny social interaction and making it weird.
I don’t remember being this stuck in my head before.
Is this just a “getting older” thing, or do other guys go through this too
Not talking full-blown anxiety, just that dumb overthinking spiral that hits outta nowhere.
What helped you chill out with this
That is generalized anxiety. I’d recommend talking to a therapist.
How old are you? Typically as you get into your 30s you start to care less about what other people think.
100%…wish I gave no shits when I was 20…giving too much shits ruined my life and shot it mostly to Hell..
Im 36 and im like this too
I’ve had it before. What helped me is realizing that those interactions are just coming from who I am as a person. Whoever doesn’t like it or has a problem with it doesn’t have to stick around me and thats fine. Get more genuine relationships that way.
As long as it’s not a negative interaction that causes harm or influences people negatively from your perspective then you’re fine. You can’t please everyone all the time.
Depending on your age, you might want to get your hormone levels checked – diminishing testosterone can cause your confidence to wane
Send those thoughts into the corner facing the wall with a dunce hat on… Then when he is sulking in the corner, spark up a new conversation with your far more interesting positive friend who is on your side. Try it!
To the therapist!
Also, if you recently had an interaction that stuck out in your mind and you became suddenly self aware of something you do or say because of it, that might kick off a spiral like this. If you’re normally self aware, this is pretty normal (for us). You get used to it. Therapy helps.
I am an overthinker and 50 and while I don’t like the thought of aging and being newly divorced at my age I think replaying your interactions to that level is beyond what I would consider typical .
I think if I were wanting to escape the situation, I would ask myself why you are replaying every social interaction . Are you unhappy with some sort of social interaction with a specific person or in general?
Never had such a period. It is normal sometimes to think about certain past interactions and how you could have handled things differently, but what you describe seems some kind of anxiety building up for no reason whatsoever. The only thing than I can recommend is to get your brain busy with something else – play games, watch movies, find some hobbies that will keep you busy and remind yourself that those things doesn’t really matter and you should focus on the road ahead not in the past.
The best thing is to spend more time with other people.
You gotta stop using all drugs
Start asking the question: What did I learn, and do differently.
This is how we learn, get better. Read books, YouTube these situations and proper interactions. Learning people’s names, listening, talking. Life skills. Once you realize life is a classroom….it is much more fun.