I posted a pretty long post earlier today basically wondering if the relationship was over (due to the hinge comedian shit). if y’all read that and remember I stupidly called him and he didn’t answer and it went to voicemail. Anyway he texted me 4 minutes later and said
“We can talk about it sometime this weekend. Have a good night.”
Obviously I’m not an idiot and he’s probably bothered / annoyed. :/
Friend said that the periods and the message indicates he’s going to talk to me and say he doesn’t want to be bf/gf. And that because he said “sometime” it probably means he’s not going to follow through because it’s vague. 🥺😭
If the guy likes me as much as he says he did, was me texting him two days in a row and then calling him a possible dealbreaker for not being in a relationship? I’m worried I fucked it up even more. Also, if he needed time to think and decided he wanted to be in a relationship with me maybe he would’ve had a happier tone / better text message / wouldn’t ghost. So the tone probably indicates that he is going to reject me? What do you guys think 🙁
Also i don’t understand what the whole point of this was If he tells me he’s not ready for a relationship. Why did he even get upset I could’ve been possibly talking to / seeing other guys (I wasn’t) ?? I never forced his hand into a monogamous serious relationship. We were sitting in ambiguity / fwb territory for all I knew! I never gave him some ultimatum that I needed him to be my bf and therefore he needed to say he wasn’t ready for a relationship . This all came from his jealousy. What’s the point of the jealousy if you’re not wanting to be with me? Why do all this and drag me into it if you aren’t ready??? Literally could’ve kept things the way they were going.??? Please make me understand.
Yes.
Dust those heels off and walk (fast) away now. Whilst ur dignity is still intact. Please be warrie, some Men & Women pull some very mentally abusive tricks/tactics. Google it…. Anyhow, what you wanna try & avoid is ANY sign, that you are truly devestated. Wait. Let him come to you. Remind him without communication, there can be nothing. Maybe better friends? (Cough) That way- if he was gonna dump you= you respected yourself. If he is not open to calm, direct & kind communication. Bye. If u think he is capable of growth, this may be your ONLY chance to inforce ground rules/ boundries. Be kind & patient with him. You will know soon if he really wants something that can last. Eitherway, hit the gym, walk, do a hair treatment, go out dancing with friends (even for 1 hour), go to comedy. Goodluck & please update xxx
This behavior fits into the “you triggered his PTSD and now he wants distance”. You never had the bf/gf talk and we don’t really know if it was even on his mind. You should always expect that a fuck buddy is a fuck buddy and it is very rare to get promoted from that, it is more likely for it to end when some kind of feelings emerge then to progress.
He thought, or possibly wished, you were heading toward exclusivity. The conversation with another guy, even though you say it was nothing, destroyed his wishes. I’m not defending him because this really should’ve been discussed or at the very least mentioned, but that’s what’s happening here. It’s probably best to let it go and move on.
He no longer trusts you.
Happened before he existed and I never even replied and we were never exclusive. It’s unfair of him to punish me for that and distrust me when THERE WAS NO BOUNDARY ANYWAY?!!
Who wants to be dating someone who’s sleeping with someone else like an hour before they see you? It’s really disgusting and horrible behavior, even to joke about it.