Long story short. There was a dishes for A, B and me in the sink for a few days. Probably 80% of those were them and the rest are mine. Three days ago I wanted to do them all but found out it was clogged. And I spent a day to unclogged it but too tired to do them.
Fast forward yesterday 9am I got them unclogged and did all the dishes. And started cooking I forgot to put bones and some food waste into the compose and left it like that and left two dishes after finish eating on dining table. The other morning A was extremely upset because I didn’t clean up after myself. And he said A and B have been cleaning up after me for far too long. Times that they don’t do the dishes is because I have dishes in the sink. I often time do their dished but they never did mine which is fine by me. Sometimes I just want to room in the sink. A said don’t do their dishes just clean up my mess. It probably went from two full sink of full dishes to a couple pieces of bone in the sink strainer and two dishes on the table. He scolded me pretty hard on text said they have been fed up and putting up my actions for very long time. And they are not my mom. I feel like they are kind of double standard because they leave dishes unwashed in the sink and on the dining table all the time. I will always clean up after the next time after work or before I cook. I wouldn’t ask them to clean up my stuff but in this situation they are kind of stuck. Because they would not clean that up for me (*this mess is made by you*) and at the same time don’t want to wait because they want to use the sink right away.
Am I the asshole? I should probably have minded my own business and save my energy instead. I feel like I probably was expecting a little bit of leeway because I contributed something but I guess that must made people upset
How old are you 3? Why didn’t you point out the double standard?
NTA but also stop doing their dishes when you do yours so they can see how they’re not as clean as they think.
how old are you 3? assuming peoples age because they handle situations differently than you! LOL
Are you seriously misunderstanding them calling OP childish as them actually assuming OP is literally 3 years old?
Yes, people handle situations differently than others, but that doesnt change how childish everyone involved in the OP behaved.
If you are over the age of 20 why are they not cleaning up after themselves? Did they elect you dishwasher when you weren’t there?
ESH, but mostly your roommates, but also sorta you too.
All three of you need to clean up after themselves. All three of you are correct that its unfair you have to clean up after each other.
But your roommates suck extra for coming at you so hot about it the day after you cleaned up after them.
I agree ESH. Leaving dishes that still have food out is gross.
Word by word
Hey C, can you even just TRY to clean up after yourself in the kitchen!! Its a complete mess this morning!
Just imagine what it would look like if the 3 of us were doing that
No problem but I did all the dishes yesterday
I just did two sinks of dishes
I did yours and Bs too
Oh shit yeah you mean the food waste my bad
don’t do our dishes clean your mess
I mean everything
Yeah like I said, they suck more, but what they said or did doesnt change if your behavior is good or bad, right? Either its bad to leave your dishes for others to clean up, or it isnt, right?
Leaving dishes on the table is just awful. None of you seem to respect the concept of upholding your end of living with others. The sink got clogged because dishes are thrown in the sink with stuff on them. The sink is not meant to hold dishes for days until someone breaks down and cleans. I could see leaving scraped dishes in the overnight, but beyond that, ew. Get environmentally friendly dishes. But everyone needs to clean after themselves better. If I don’t feel like cleaning, I don’t make a mess.
NTA but stop doing his dishes. Take them away from the sink, clean yours and then put them back. Oh, and send them a message telling them to clean their messes
Don’t clean their dishes and if they leave them lying around unwashed send them a message telling them to clean up their mess.
EBTAH So you leave the sink full of dishes & in protest/frustration they then also leave theirs. Eventually you want to cook/have a clean kitchen, so you crack and do all the dishes. The cycle then begins again because you’re all dished out!?
Solution? Cook together each evening & clean up together. Snacks/lunch/breakfast – everyone pledges to clean up invl. dishes before they sit down to eat, then wash their dish/plate etc begore leaving the kitchen. Just do it immediately- it’s far less time consuming.
ESH. You all suck for not cleaning up after yourselves. Why would you wash their dishes and leave your own, rather than washing your own and leaving theirs?