My boyfriend likes to go to the local strip club near us. He called me up earlier today and we just had a conversation. He told me that his friend and him were going back to his home to do some work on one of the trucks. Just randomly, I asked if his friend and him had met up for lunch at this strip club. He asked me to repeat myself so i asked the same question but left out the name of the strip club this time. He laughed and asked me why I was asking. I told him just because. He kept asking me why I was asking and I asked why don’t you just answer the question. He finally said yes, his friend and him went in for a couple drinks and some food. I just went silent. He then asked me again why I was asking and I told him just because. I know this friend and him normally meet up at this place. He then said "well, im not looking at them. I just like the food and cheaper beer. Plus, we like to laugh at the older guys that go in and spend all this money on the girls then leave." Now, I have been to this strip club with him in the past. When we were there together, one of the girls came up to him abd rubbed on the back of his neck. I made it very clear that I didn’t like her doing that. So when he went earlier today, I asked him if any of them touched him. He said no. I just don’t see how a straight male would go to a strip club and not look at the girls. And he knows I don’t really like him going there. I don’t know what to do/how to feel. I don’t believe that he would cheat on me, but at the same time, why would you go to a strip club and not look at anything. Plus, just for giggles, I’ve asked him if he would go to a male strip club with me. He said absolutely not. I guess it’s just wanted others opinions on this situation?
Girl why the fuck are with a 50 year old when you are 30? Going to the strip clubs is fine when you are single but NOT when you are in a relationship…
He’s laughing at the old men at the strip club cause he caught himself a nice young piece of ass to play with……..if he thought of you as MORE than a young firm ass to grab he would not step inside the strip club period.
He’s obviously going to the strip club to look at the strippers. I understand you’ve made your discomfort with this known, but he’s made it clear that he doesn’t care about that.
These aren’t the sorts of values I’d be looking for in my own partner, but if he’s the guy you want to be with he’s the guy you want to be with.
Truthfully, I think if he was the sort of guy who wanted to hear his partner out about boundaries and treat her as an equal… He wouldn’t have picked someone up who was twenty years his junior.
Urgh. Dump this creep. He goes….for the FOOD?? Wahahahaha!! Yeah, of course you do, dude. Good grief, if my eyes rolled any more, they would dislocate.
More worrying, though, is the fact That you are even wondering about what to do about this. The guy is a creep and a liar, why are you hesitating?
this is a totally normal thing! OP is overreacting tbf. i constantly go to the strip club without telling my 20 year younger GF about it because the food really is SO good and cheap and the beer too!
i bring her once in a while and let strippers rub me but she makes it clear she’s not okay with that so i just stopped bringing her cos like, i don’t want the strippers to feel like they’re ugly because i’m not looking at them and only eating. wouldn’t wanna get kicked out! gotta just play the game ya know
Careful she might actually believe you!
You should go there sometime with him or wi h out him to taste the cuisine.
i was there with him and can vouch for him
he just likes the cheap beer. he covers his eyes when the strippers walk past him too. it’s really quite wholesome. he has worsening hearing too, that’s why he had to ask you to repeat yourself. he hasn’t told you because he’s really self conscious about the age gap and wants things to work out between y’all.
honestly he’s such a great man you should stay with him and believe everything he says.
Come on OP. He goes there to look at naked women while he eats and drinks beer that is definitely NOT cheaper. Many moons ago I was a stripper, and the lunch and dinner rush is always old ass dudes like your boyfriend sitting there chewing and staring. They call you over, buy you a drink and stare at your tits until they leave. Most get lapdances while waiting for their food.
Dump him.
Why is it an issue for you now, today, when this is something he does often and has since you started dating?
If it really bothered you, was an actual dealbreaker, you wouldn’t date him. So either stop bugging him about it or move on.
I don’t have an issue with the strip club thing but someone who goes regularly at 50YO just seems like a creep. Ya know, the kind of creep dating a 30YO who is very immature.
As someone who is older than him, I’m going to say this very bluntly, because you aren’t a child and you should know better:
You were in your 20s less than a year ago. Why TF are you dating a man who is half-a-century old?
He has nothing to offer you. Nothing. Especially a man that age who is still going to the strip club. Going to the strip club when you’re 25 is … well, still questionable, but whatever. But at 50? Tacky and low class.
Love yourself more than this, for real.
Eeew girl. Your standards and self respect are in the toilet.
Have you tried therapy?
> He then said “well, im not looking at them. I just like the food and cheaper beer.
…how dumb does he think you are? There’s no other place in town that has decent food and cheap beer? Strip clubs are literally known for their crazy markups so this doesn’t even make sense.
> Plus, we like to laugh at the older guys that go in and spend all this money on the girls then leave.”
He is one of those old guys lmao. Nothing sadder than a middle-aged man who thinks he’s a young buck. I guarantee the women at the club see him exactly this way.
He’s lying about not going to look at women. And if he just cared about the food and beer and not looking at the entertainment, why would he not go to a male strip club? He’s obviously there for the sexual arousal.
This dude is a creep. If you want to date a creep, have at it. Otherwise leave him to his “cheap beer.”
He’s 20 years older and doesn’t give a shit about you. Get some self respect and leave my dear. He’s a wanker.