Do you think that me(21F) snd my bf(21M) should continue this relationship? I keep overthinking this

Okay so i am 21f and he is 21m anf we have been together for 2 years and own a house together (we have lived together for 2 1/2 years) we also own a dog together (although he is registered to my name). Alright here is the story and thoughts, i feel like such and ahole and a terrible person for thinking and feeling this….its a bit long so just read what you want. 🙂

so basically i am just really confused on if i should break up with him or not.

I love him but i don’t really see a future together, different goals, hobbies and more.

He want to stay in our town and work the same job forever, i want to move, be “free” try living in another country and more, maybe even job hopping while traveling but he doesnt want to try any other work.

We only have movies and some video games in common, i’ve tried to get him into cars, archery, be more adventurous but its just tiring and basically dragging me down

He doesn’t like to drive, never wants to have a truck cuz he can’t drive them and will have too much anxiety while i want one. He can’t tow or back a trailer so i have to do that which makes camping and stuff harder, he isn’t handy in anything but i am so most work around the house and more falls on me or my dad everytime

He denies driving during busy hours which forces me to drive (again) everytime. He doesn’t do anything around the house except occasionally taking out the trash and putting dishes in the dishwasher, when i mention it he gets angry and says that i can’t see or appreciate what he is doing and a whole ass argument starts (him just yelling and cussing me out) so i have anxiety mentioning stuff to him cuz he always thinks that i am nagging or scolding him.

He cheated also throughout the first whole year together (been together 2 years now) he was asking other girls for photos and even sent one himself on Insta, he was even asking for photos while i was in surgery in another town, i just found out 2 weeks after we bought the house so its harder to break up.

But he always and always has been complimenting me (mostly on my looks tho) and he is very sweet most of the time

But he is very quick to get angry, one time when i was trynna leave the room because he was just yelling at me, didn’t even let me speak, he grabbed my arms pushed me down on the couch and held me there for a bit to finish what he was saying but felt bad straight away, and one time he put his hands on my throat too for like 2 seconds. But thats the only 2 times he has touched me during an argument

And when we argue he doesn’t let me speak, he just yells and yells louder and talks over me, i try to remain calm and use my normal or even more softer voice but still that doesn’t change anything

But the reason it’s hard to break up is because of the house and also because i love him, i can’t say i am in love with him but i do love him if that makes sense, i’s miss Derpy (the dog) too, the dog is registered on my name tho but i can’t bring myself to take him away from him if we’d brake up

He also has been really sweet and extra thoughtful past 2 weeks even tho i’ve been very cold and acting uninterested (because i’ve been overthinking this) which makes it harder.

One more thing is that he is still very shy to my parents, after 2 years, he still feels very anxious and thinks my parents don’t like him but they try their best to talk to him and welcome him but like if my parents come over then he just hangs in his phone reading manga, barely saying hi to them

i just feel like i’d be locking myself up in a cage, and i know that he bought an engagement ring summer 2025 and honestly it give me anxiety. I know i would not say yes.

Also it is important for me to learn and grow together, but he says that learning new things hurt him and that he feels threatened that i am smarter and wiser than him. A month ago we were just talking around different sea creatures while driving and he mentioned octopus, so i said also squid, then i was gonna tell him the difference between then two cuz ge didn’t know and he just exloded, said that i was starting an arguement (i had just googled a photo) and it lasted for 2 hours that arguement, over that…

I feel like have to dumb myself down, not say too much, not teach him and more. Like i honestly don’t know who i am anymore i am basically just a shell. I don’t draw or play video games any more, i just drive around listening to music, got to school and the two jobs and sleep

i guess what is also troubling me is that i keep thinking that maybe it will make me happy later and that it’s just a phase, but that might be kinda silly

i did tell him 2 days ago tho that i was unsure of the relationship and leaning towards breaking up, but i wanted to at least have a good Christmas and new years with him one last time

Then we’d have the conversation again in January after new years.

Now after i had that conversation with him he is being overly sweet and very clingy up to a point that i kind of find it uncomfortable, he followed me around the house, does everything for me, now he want to change jobs if i decide to stay with him and move countries, learn new things, drive big cars (like i want) he does more work around the house now, but thats all after i talked to him that i am 99% on breaking up with him and he didn’t take it badly when i told him either.

Idk it feels like i am doing the right thing cuz i am just broken mentally and need time to heal myself, to find myself again cuz i don’t know who i am anymore and i just feel empty. But i keep thinking what if it s mistake but then again we are only 21. Its also hard cuz we own the house and dog together.

I love him so much and he is most often very sweet, spoils me by buying things i want when i ask and more, just i feel something is missing and i need someone more open who drags me out and makes me feel like the woman not the man in the relationship (i’m a mechanic and i always drive cuz he is an insecure driver and cannot drive eith a trailer) and i feel like if i had a child with him then i would be constantly anxious if he was babysitting it cuz he forgets to let the dog out and feed him often.

Idk what to doo, i feel like a terrible person and an asshole.