For some context, I used to never have a phone until i was 14M so i added my freind lets call him david on my moms phone. I got my first phone when i was 15M and added my freind on whatsapp but i had forgotten to remove him from my mums phone on Whatsapp.
Today he sent a picture of me and my family since its on my moms story that only her FREINDS can view. Now around half of my year have it and many people are saying comments about my mom and sister to annoy me. Such as "Shes fit" or "Id crack" i dont appreciate people saying this stuff about them. I found out that it was my freind and he said it was "Jokes" and it was revenge beacuse 3 months ago i found his mom and dad on linkeldn which is public unlike my moms which is public only to freinds. I also didnt send them i showed them to people on my phone so no one else could send it to anyone else. Well my freind could not differentate the differnce between sending and showing a picture. He said that he only sent it to one boy but i started to intergoate him more and it turns out he purposfully sent it this boy beaucse he didnt want to send it to everyoen else but had full knowledge that this boy would send it. He is now mad at me and saying that i have double standards but i told him i would not care if he showed the picture to people but sending it, crosses the line.
So AITA
To clear this up. I was given permission by my mom to add him using her phone and account
Also i should of included this in. We have always done this. Him showing my parents LinkedIn and me doing the same. Many of the people do this in our class aswell as a joke. I also didnt give him perm to send it around and i had no idea this had happend
I think I might be too old for this story to make any sense at all.
Was there something significant about the photo? Why are you showing people their LinkedIn?
NTA this time but you were the AH 3 months ago. Even if you didnt send it to anyone. Hes right about you having double standards.
ESH. You shouldn’t have shown other people pictures of your friend’s parents. Your friend could have been the bigger person, but chose not to (honestly valid), but it sucked that he chose the same route.
YTA for all horrendous spelling, Grammarly is free.
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FRIday is the END of the week and i get to see my FRIENDS
I’m confused. It seems like you’re upset that he sent a photo of you and your family to others. And that you’re upset that your mom and sister were in it; you didn’t seem care about you being in the photo. If anyone should be annoyed, it should be the others in your family. You can ask them about it, but if they don’t care you should drop the whole thing.
And I still don’t see why the school would care.
I find it odd how you seem to be more irked at the sharing of the photo rather than the lewd comments they’re making.
No my problem is the lewd comments but they have occured due to my freind sending that photo around
ESH. You shouldn’t have added him as a friend to your mom’s phone, and he shouldn’t be looking at your mom’s friends-only story, let alone sharing it.
I have no idea how you add someone to someone else’s phone, but I’m old and probably am missing something. Did you ever clear it with your Mom to add your friend. Does she even know he has access to her WhatsApp account. If not YTA for not clearing that with your mother.
You are discovering the mischief someone can get up to with access to someone else’s account. Learn that lesson well.
As for you sharing a parents LinkedIn accounts or your friend sharing pics from a private account, you are being 14 and rude and are getting upset when your friend is being 14 and rude. Both of you need to grow up and quit thinking that making fun of your parents is a good use of your time.
Just to clarify it doesn’t sound like the kid has access to the mom’s account. It sounds like the mom is friends on whatsapp with the kid (presumably so he and OP could chat via the mom’s phone) and so when she shared something to friends only, the kid saw it and shared it to others
Your friend is right, you do have double standards. For all intents and purposes showing someone’s LinkedIn is the same as sharing it. It’s not like the person you showed it to would have looked it up in their own. (Although I don’t know why he’s embarrassed by the LinkedIn, chalking it up to teens are weird and get embarrassed.)
As for your mom’s photo being private, you both learned the valuable lesson that nothing is truly private on the internet. YTA.
Yta. You should never have added the friend to your mom’s phone without her explicit permission. You had no right to access her private accounts at any time and even less of a right to share information from her private accounts.
If you’re showing people pictures of you and your family, then they must be appropriate and would be of no concern for others to see it.
If YOU sent the picture to someone, they now own their copy and can do whatever they want with it so long as it’s not legally protected or explicit/illicit content. YOU should never have sent a picture to anyone that you didn’t want anyone else to see.
Your mom doesn’t need your protection, kid. She doesn’t care what little kids are saying about her. You can’t stop anyone from looking at or making comments about her. You can drop friends who make inappropriate comments, but you can’t stop them from saying them.
It sounds like you need to lose your phone for a while and maybe should never have gotten one considering you can’t make good choices with what you do have.
I had permission. I didnt show pics of me and my family and idk were you found that beacuse that was not in the post. They were appropriate, i just want to know if i was in the wrong no need to talk down to me beacuse im a ” kid”
I’m going to go against the grain with NTA. While your friend is arguing that you did the same thing. I don’t think it is. There is a difference between public and private info. For an old school example, it’s like if you had shown a publicly posted flyer of your friend’s parents and then your friend took a copy of a photo from your private family album and then gave it to another friend who copied and posted it for the whole school to see. There’s nothing wrong with joking around, but once someone no longer finds it funny, it’s time to apologize. It seems as though your friend may have been hurt by your last joke.Try appolgizing for that, and let him know that you did not find this joke funny. If he doesn’t appolgize in return, it may be time to cut your losses and recognize he’s no longer a friend.