There’s two dogs in my house, one is mine and one is my siblings dog. I’m a college student but community college so most days i’m only gone a couple hours max. So most days I am able to watch both dogs in the house (if I didn’t watch the other dog it would be crated 24/7, it’s an older puppy who still isn’t fully potty trained and has no other training.) but on days I don’t have any classes I work and because of where I work I can bring my dog with me.
My sibling is mad at me and thinks I need to bring their dog to work with me as they can’t watch it the days I work (they are gone 8+ hours a day and have no time for a puppy) but I don’t want to. The puppy still screams it it’s crate so if it’s crated at my work it’ll disrupt everyone, it’ll use the bathroom in the crate and i’ll be stuck cleaning it, and also taking two dogs to work where I have to actually work as well is just too much). They don’t have anyone to watch the puppy or let it out these days which means the puppy will be stuck in the crate for probably 6-8 hours straight depending on my work schedule.
Am I the asshole? Of course this sucks for the puppy but I don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to have to take it to work with me on top of already doing the majority of its care that I told my sibling I wouldn’t do before they got the dog (which is another issue we’re fighting over atm)
NTA. Sibling is for getting a puppy they have no time for. Unfair to the animal.
Exactly.
OMG. That poor dog.
Honestly, I would probably take on the dog just for the dog’s sake. He doesn’t deserve a life of caged neglect!
Your sibling is a TA for not properly taking care of him. I get that you don’t want to take on the extra work (because he will need attention and training etc) and you don’t have to but turning a blind eye and allowing the neglect to continue makes YTA too.
ESH. PLEASE encourage your sibling to rehome the dog so he at least has a shot at some love and happiness in his short life.
They are putting their neglect on your consience. Not ok
This is a no brainer. No one is responsible for someone else’s pets. Also no one should “surprise” a person with a pet they will be expected to live with and care for. Sister needs to make her own arrangements.
NTA – you got a puppy and figured out how to take care of it. Sibling needs to do the same or rehome their puppy.
NTA
“My job allows me to bring MY dog to work. It does not allow me to bring someone else’s dog to work.”
If your sibling will not take care of the dog, it needs to be rehomed immediately. Crating that long is 100% abuse and I am pro crate training.
When my children were on their own college and post college, own place to live, jobs etc, I told them I would buy them a pair of kittens and all supplies if they got kittens instead of puppies. Two kittens are a handful but don’t need walked and entertain each other. All 5 children said yes, got 2 siblings from SPCA, crates, litter box, toys, litter, food just so a puppy doesn’t need to suffer like your sibling puppy. You have a job which pays you money and graciously allows you bring a dog that’s not a problem. You planned ahead your sibling did not think ahead. It’s not your responsibility to watch another puppy and risk your job because sibling didn’t make a plan for his dog. Though it’s awful for the puppy it’s not worth risking your job for sibling poor choices. NTA
ESH, but you way less than your sibling.
Look, it’s not your pet, and not your responsibility. I agree with this 100%. But IT IS a pet in absolute distress, and just allowing it to go on without saying something (this dog needs a new home ASAP) is not ok.
But the biggest asshole is always the person who adopted the dog without being able to care for it, putting the responsibility on someone else’s shoulders, and is now blaming he neglect on them, not the initial lack of care.
Bottom line: the dog is the one suffering because you guys are bickering. Get him to a new home, and the problems will be solved.
INFO: Why would the dog be crated 24/7?
Maybe I am misreading, but wouldn’t your sibling uncrate the puppy once he is home from work? If that puppy is crated 24/7 then you need to rehome him. This goes past “its my sibling’s dog” and is much firmer in “basic obligations as a human being” territory.
NTA but you need to advocate hard for this dog to be rehomed. It is a horrible way for it to live- unhappy, untrained, alone and sitting in its own waste all day. Your sibling needs to do right by this dog.
NTA. No time for a puppy. Why does he have one?
That poor dog, it really should be rehomed. Taking one dog with you to work or school is completely different than being responsible for two, especially one that no one has bothered to potty train yet!
Your sibling is the asshole. NTA
That is animal abuse.