We had a 3rd phone call. Communication seemed iffy leading up to it, but whatever. Our 3rd phone call lasted 3 hours long and we talked about general stuff. After the first 2 phone calls, he had said we can talk again on the phone later during the week, and even texted me hi the next day. He had also initiated the calls both those times. I had to initiate the 3rd phone call (which is fine!) but he never said we could talk later in the week when we ended it, and he hasn’t texted me saying hi either after the call (it’s been 2-3 days by now).
Yes I could still reach out and say something to him but I wonder if he’s naturally just losing interest and I don’t wanna be oblivious and send something despite that. I would appreciate if he was just more straightforward, instead of being quiet on me, but whatever I guess.
2-3 days is nothing. Maybe he got the flu.
Could be!
Do you have your own hobbies?
You just talked for 3 hours, you need more communication?
I want a hello! I had an interview yesterday (which I briefly told him about), I’d have loved a check-in text about that …
Have you guys made plans to actually see each other in person? Maybe this is my tendency to prefer to talk to people in person rather than phone conversations, but I’d probably start losing interest if we have multiple calls or text a while but no concrete plans come from it.
Regardless of what happens with this guy, don’t have hour long conversations on the phone. Use to it make small talk and then to arrange meeting in person.
The whole point of dating is to find someone you can be comfortable with in person. The phone is a poor substitute for that and sabotages it when you do meet because you’ve begun to eat into the things you can talk about.
Aren’t you being equally quiet by not texting or calling him?
I had been working out of town when I was home for a weekend and happened to meet my future wife. A brief conversation lead to a 3 hour coffee meetup the next day. The following day I was leaving for 6 weeks and on my way home, I called and asked her if I could call while I was gone. I called the next day, and every single day after that.
Just text him.
Just text him, you’re overthinking.
I am starting to think that human extinction won’t come from nuclear war, fatal pandemic or unstoppable Kaiju – our species will go extinct as the last man and woman alive die alone, each staring at their phones, waiting for the other to text first.
They’ll both expire at once, with their last words being “why didn’t he/she text me?”
Nothing of value will be lost.
This is a microcosm of why I’ve checked out of dating. There isn’t a single person alive I would have a 3 hour phone call with.
Three hours is a lot! It’s a complete date. What else is there to say? People have lives outside of dating!
3rd phone call?
You say it as if some kind of milestone, you write this post in a tone that after 3 phone calls in an interaction with another human, a stranger you presumably haven’t even met in person that there some kind of expectation that he messages you something beyond a HI a day after talking on the phone for 3 damn hours?
If I had a wife, we had to spend 6 months apart, I really doubt I would ever spend 3 damn hours on a phone call with her, maybe when I was young and had nothing going on with my life but at my age? you’re dreaming so much important real world shit could be done in those 3 hours.
If you want someone to actual give a F about your day and your life, maybe transition to real world relationship? not long distance/online ones.