It was my sixteenth birthday, and my mom had scrounged up enough money to rent a small church to host my party in. I invited all my friends to it, 25 people to be exact.
The party was going great. We had pizza, chips, fries. Volleyball and soccer outside. It was going great until one of my friends, Mike (fake name), walked up to me and asked, “Hey, OP, where’s James? I replied, “Oh, I don’t really know him that well”, signaling that he wasn’t invited.
Mike didn’t like this and berated me for not inviting a member of our friend group. “I just don’t know that guy.” I kept insisting. Other people stopped what they were doing to join in on berating me. Only two people insisted that I hadn’t done anything wrong.
This went on for a full five minutes before Mike said, “If you don’t invite him to this party, I’m leaving.” Others saying they’ll leave too. I stood my ground and insisted that I have the right to choose who attends my party. Everyone left, all but two people.
I told those two that I appreciated them having my back, but that it’s probably better for them to leave as well since I was now in a terrible mood and having a whole church just for three is a bit too big for us.
I don’t know if what I did was wrong. I thought and still do think that I have the right to choose who attends my party. What do you think? AITA?
NTA – it’s your birthday, up to you who you invite.
Whilst I appreciate people sticking up for another friend, it’s not up to them who you invite to your birthday and if you don’t know him that well then why would you? They’ve got the wrong end of the stick here.
It’s your birthday not mikes birthday he’s the asshole and so are the other that left. I wouldn’t consider them friends after that. Again it’s your birthday not there’s
NTA A 16th birthday is a big milestone and you had the right to invite anyone you wanted. To make you look bad and convince a bunch of people to leave your party was a very shitty thing to do to you. I’m very sorry he did that but now you know who your true friends are.
NTA. I hate to say this but your friends do not like you if they’re treating you like this on your birthday and over another friend who they seem to like more than you. Keep those two that support you and maybe keep a little distance between the rest or pay closer attention to how they treat you after this.
NTA.
Now you know you have two friends, not 25.
NTA
The 2 kids who stayed behind? Those are your real friends. Hold onto them.
INFO: was he the only person in the friend group left out?
No, five others weren’t invited? But even if he was the only one, is it still justifiable for them to tell me who to invite for my birthday?
This is tricky. You invited such a large group that excluding only 5-6 people from a 30 person friend group IS rude, and makes you a bit of an A. But the friends only advocating for you to invite Henry and not the others is a bit strange. So I would say yes, YTA. Normally it would be fine, you can invite who you want for your bday, but when such a small number of people are excluded in a large group setting I think you become TA.
Well those people are not your friends and you’ll know to never invite them to something special again.
NTA. Mike is. That should have been a swift
\- “where’s James”
\- “I don’t really know him so didn’t invite him.”
\-“Shame, ok”
He’s an utter AH for making it into a big deal and I’m sorry he ruined your party. The rest (besides the two who stayed) are AH’s as well.
Mike is not your friend. 22 others are in doubt too. You don’t need 25 friends anyway. Stick to the two who showed they’re actually friends and just be friendly with the other 22.
It would be epic if Mike posted on here with his side – he’d get destroyed lol
Naw, F that and EFF fake-name MIKE
NTAH. Your friends don’t get to decide who you invite to your own party, and anyone berating you for who you choose not to invite isn’t a very good friend.