So i really want to yell, get really mad at my sister, even though I know it won’t do anything. I always feel like I am carrying my sister’s weight. She has PDA, is on the autism spectrum, and more, and I know it probably won’t do anything, but I have so much stress and frustration with her. The main things are that:
1. She barely does the dishes, or helps with cleanup after dinner like everyone is supposed to in our house (unless you cooked). Honestly, she barely does chores in general. Consistently, she will wash a dish, take a dish over to the sink, and then say she has to do homework. Then, after I am done doing all of cleanup, because our parents are really busy oftentimes, I go up to her room and she’s playing Clash Royale or doing Snap streaks or some dumb shit like that. She won’t listen and do the things she needs to.
2. She gets asked to do basic tasks, which she just doesn’t do. Many times, my parents and I have asked her to do simple things, which she just doesn’t. For example, she barely takes care of our dog, and yet she promised she would take care of him when we got him. Now, I don’t mean she doesn’t pamper him and spoil him, but she has taken him for like two walks in the 9 months we have had him, she barely cleans up his poop, and when she doesn’t let him out because she just can’t for some godforsaken reason, and he poops in the house, she refuses to clean it up. Me and my parents always have to do it.
3: She often times won’t go to school or get out of bed. She will miss school many many days, I think her attendance is about 60% and she always gets really mad whenever my parents try to get her up. She just feels so entitled and I also sometimes get jealous, because it feels like she can skip school when she wants (I know she can’t, she gets in trouble) but it just feels like it a lot.
Honestly, I just feel like I get the short end of the stick way too much. I understand that she is neurodivergent, and it is harder for her, but with my experiences with her, she is capable of it and I feel like she is almost using her neurodivergence as an excuse. I don’t know, I just want to get really mad, yell at her, and get my feelings out even if I know it won’t do anything. AITA/WIBTA for feeling like this, and can I get any advice on how to handle her better?
She’s taking advantage you no you are not the a hole not even close
Your parents have enabled her to the point of uselessness. It would take a united front (parents and you) to be able to get her to change now..
NTA, but it likely won’t have any effect. If you still live at home which it sounds like you do, if your parents are reasonable people you could try discussing it with them.
If they will make excuses for her or justify her behaviour, don’t bother honestly. As unfair as this situation is, the one benefit is that you are being equipped with life skills that your sister is not.
Keep your head down and work on doing what you can to be able to move out once you’re old enough.