Long story short I live 30 minutes from a friend. Another friend lives an hour and 20 minutes away from the same friend. The friend would like some help with something that anyone could probably help with. Due to the holiday season traffic that round trip for the other friend will most likely be closer to 4 or 6 hours in total. Am I in the wrong to suggest that someone who lives a lot closer helps them out with the task instead of the other friend?
I’m confused. Why would who helps be up to you? If you want to help then offer to help. If your friend wants the other friend to help and the other friend wants to help then that’s up to them.
Guess I have to ask for INFO: What’s this got to do with you?
As all being well we will all be hanging out but I know with holiday season traffic that can be hella stressful af so in terms of practicality wise asking someone to make a multiple hour round trip for a task that lasts 10 minutes that anyone else could do too is not the best.
And that’s your problem because?
In terms of being the most practical you can be it’s a potential problem if traffic is too busy & long but apart from that there are no other problems.
But it’s not a potential problem for you. It seems to me that even you are struggling to see or articulate why this is your problem and why you should be saying anything about it.
As the other person said to me that they may not be able to make it due to things still up in the air including travel I thought I should raise it.
I think you let the friend who needs the help figure it out. If multi-hour friend says they can’t do it *then* you can offer to help. Stay in your lane.
Exactly! Not really any of OP’s business
Just say no and let your friend decide their own actions . If they want to help so be it.
You are both the A H and not the A H.
You can suggest to your friend that during the holidays, travel times may be an issue.
You can suggest that perhaps your friend look elsewhere for support.
But you should also remember that this is your friend’s problem, not yours.
You should also remember that whoever agrees to help said friend has accepted the travel issues and timing and all that.
You are so very much putting yourself into a problem that you are very much not involved in. This is the very definition of butting into someone else’s business. If you force your way into this issue, you will quickly become the problem.