I don’t really know how to explain some things so this might be a little wonky but I (F19) and my husband (M20) have been married for some time now and for the entire time of us knowing each other i have only liked 2 friends of his. I didn’t really think once i was in a relationship i would ever find myself disliking his friends but there have been instances of them showing their color that i do not like. I would say it was just as simple as me not liking them and thats all but my husband insists on being close with them because they are his friends. For context of this story me and my husband only dated for a month before getting married. Yes i know that it is crazy to some people but we had nothing to lose so me and him made the decision to get married. No one was really supposed to know but word of mouth slipped and people were finding out. While he was informing his friends that didn’t know so they would feel left out he told his female friend Cristi and Emily (made up cause obviously) and Cristi took it well and congratulated us and hoped us the best which i loved that fact that she was so sweet however when my husband was telling me Emilys reaction i was thrown off with the 180 reaction from her. My husband showed me text of her saying “you will regret this” and “are you sure about this” It stung me that she assumed i was a wrong path for him. I already know that since it was a sudden thing and she had no chance to meet me that she would be concerned but to say that gave me a bad impression. With everyone else they wish us the best. Im not gonna lie and say all my friends were not questioning but they did it and respected our choices. This friend never wished us anything other than questioning him. Its been some time and this is still on my mind because when i try to talk to him about it he says that i should forget about it and me and her would be good friends. But i don’t want to be her friend not after seeing that first conversation and her questions. I just want to know if I’m in the wrong for not wanting to speak to her or ever meet her in the future?
Edit- also this not our first relationships to the people blabbing on and no we are not religious and got married to fool around with each other not every relationship is about wanting to have intercourse that weird that some of y’all’s first thought were that
“I (F19) and my husband (M20)” lmao what the hell
“Married for some time now” like what the fuck?
And they’ve “been married for some time now” after only one month of dating LOL
Edit- I love how 3 people
commented the same thing at the same time
And married for “some time” and dated a month.
Wonder if they’re super religious and were chomping at the bit to bone lol
YTA, those are valid questions you were only dating for one month and got married. Which is insanely fast but best of luck to y’all
Emily sounds like she might just be a realist. If one of my close friends made the decision to marry a person they just met at the very ripe age of 19 I would also react like Emily. Don’t take it personally, though, as you and Emily haven’t even met yet, so how could she possibly know you personally were the wrong path for him?
For real, I stand with emily. she’s just speaking facts and is worried about her friend doing something that could fuck up his life.
Anyone rational would be throw and suspicious about it. Marrying so young and after 1 month is really not something you should do.
Other than that, you can like and dislike whomever you want for whatever reason. Its up to you to communicate and reach a compromise with your husband.
YTA. Your reaction to a message that wasn’t even sent to you is immature. You married very young and barely knowing each other. I would be concerned for my friend in this situation too.
A more mature way to look at this would be to realise that not everyone reacts the way to sudden news, and focus on being a kind person. Time will tell if you and Emily become friends
You are 19 and married for some time now?
“It stung me that she assumed i was a wrong path for him.”
Nowhere in your recounting of the events did this person ever express an opinion about you. For all we know, she meant that it was a mistake to get married to someone you’d only dated for a month. She doesn’t know you, so I think it’s a leap to assume that she is making snap judgements about you like that.
YTA Emily is actually the only one in this story who’s had a reasonable reaction to you and your husband’s absolutely INSANE choice to get married so fast. Like I hope it works out for you both, but you CANNOT expect another sane adult to think this was a good idea.
She didn’t even say anything bad about the relationship itself, she didn’t say YOU were a bad choice for your husband, she said that you and your husband getting married after ONE MONTH was a bad idea, and that’s 10000% reasonable and accurate.
Not ‘liking’ her and wanting to ‘never meet her’ over this is childish, and really just goes to show that you WEREN’T ready to get married, and that she was right in her assumptions.
It seems like a normal reaction and line of questions for a friend to have after you guys got married a month in on knowing each other.