so basically i have two cousins and both of them got together w their boyfriends this year, i met both of them few months ago and they were nice and wtv. the past years (like every year i can remember) my cousins + me and my mom spent new years at our grandmas place wich is just down the street where i live. now earlier this year both of them said they wouldn’t come this year because they both were gonna spend new years with their boyfriends, okay whatever i recently got into stranger things anyways (binged the whole show in a few days) and want to stay up till 2 am on new years (january 1st) to watch the last episode, and my mom knows i’m really excited for this now this is where it all goes down. suddenly my two cousins tell us that they’re probably gonna come on new years and bring their boyfriends wich already kinda ..just makes me feel weird since i cant really just be me when people i barely know are there. but i was like okay..whatever but then my mom tells me my one cousin is gonna sleep at OUR apartment in the living room wich is just outside my room. and i immediately told her that i didn’t want that because i barely know her boyfriend, i dont want my mom to sleep in my room since that’s the only other room we have (my mom usually sleeps in the living room) and that i don’t like having to walk past my cousin and her boyfriend every time i have to go to the bathroom. my mom got really mad at me for saying this and i’m not sure if i’m like overreacting or not
girl trust me if they’re bringing bfs its gonna be awkward as hell. keep ur stranger things marathon and don’t let em crash it!!
So you and your mom both live in a one bedroom apartment and now four more people are going to crash there for the night? That would be a hard pass for me, but it sounds like your mom is the one on the lease and she’s the one that pays the bills so you may not have much choice. Is there someplace else you can go for the evening?
sadly i don’t have anywhere else i could go since my best friend stays at her parents place over new years and that is about 4 hours away and i don’t really have anyone else
NTA Forget that. You don’t even have two bedrooms for the two people living there. It’s a non-starter. Don’t even do this once, because that would be the *start* of your mother offering this. It’s worth weathering through your mother not being happy about this for a while in order to nip it in the bud.
Nta. The issue is that plans changed and you are being asked to give up privacy and comfort in your own home for people you barely know.
It is reasonable to feel uncomfortable with strangers sleeping just outside your room and having your space disrupted without being asked. You were not being unkind, just honest about your limits. Your mom wanting to be accommodating is understandable, but that does not cancel out your need to feel safe and comfortable at home
YTA the AH for asking such a ridiculous.
NTA, but I’m trying to figure out what their plan actually is. Are they planning to go out and party and just use your apartment to crash? Or are they going to be just hanging out with you guys all NYE? Both are not good, but for different reasons. I hope your mom comes around, because this plan sounds awful.
from what i know they want to like spend it with us so like me, my mom, my grandma then both my cousins and their boyfriends at our grandmas place and then my older cousin wants to stay at my grandmas w her boyfriend and my younger cousin at mine a her boyfriend :/
NTA. Wanting some personal space and privacy, especially around someone you barely know, isn’t overreacting. You should be able to enjoy New Year’s your way without awkwardly tiptoeing past strangers. Your mom can accommodate them, but your comfort matters too. It’s fine for your cousins to hang out, but having someone sleep right outside your room is a boundary you get to set.
Holy Hannah! PARAGRAPHS are a good thing. Also, it is **WHICH** not wich.
I sincerely can’t make any good sense from this wall of text, but what I glean from this monolithic post is:
1. You want to binge watch Stranger Things on New Year’s Eve by yourself, and…
2. You don’t want to share your bedroom with your Mom.
3. You’ve expressed some reluctance to have people that you don’t know well in the house while you’re binge watching.
Anyhow….yes, it is a less than ideal situation, but it is not your house. Your Mom gets to host relatives in her house if she wants.
YTA. Not your house, not your rules… binge watch another time. Don’t be huffy about not watching Stranger Things. Roll with these changes, adjust your attitude and make the best of the evening.