For context I live with my sister so I could help her out because she lives way below the poverty line with 2 kids and no financial support from either of her kids dads.
When I first moved in I was paying the majority of the bills to get them caught up, the main one cleaning, and cooking. She started moving other people in that we both knew bc she still was struggling to make bills even though I was giving her 1,500/month.
After I found out she was struggling to make bills and moved her in I went to our agreed amount which was less than what I was paying, stopped cooking for everyone (I financially didn’t have the money to feed her, me, my kids, her kids, her fiancé, and the friend we both knew), and only was cleaning up after me and my kids.
She got a cut of hours at her job and was able to make rent and was facing eviction bc the landlord was sick of her being late on the rent. The friend was suppose to put $400, me $200, and her $250. She put $200, the friend put $100, and I had to put up the rest plus pay electric and gas.
The friend doesn’t do anything but lay up in their room constantly. They come downstairs to eat. Leaves dirty dishes all over the kitchen along with slinging trash all over the counters. She pins it on me and I’ve told her countless of times that it’s not and I do not appreciate being blamed when we both knew exactly who it was.
Tonight me and my sister got into a screaming match over the dishes the friend used and just left laying for the past few days. I told her and quote “Stop fucking blame me and go get that lazy ass down here to clean the dishes they dirtied up.”. She went on about something and I told her “it’s not my job to clean up after lazy grown ass adults and never will be.”. And which she said “I clean up after her (the friend) all the time it’s called helping out and it wouldn’t kill you to help out.”. I said “That’s your fault! It’s not my job and wasn’t in our agreement.”. Then I left with my kids.
My friend is saying I should’ve just sucked it up and cleaned the dishes but I don’t feel like it’s my job to do so and this is a hill I will die on! Before suggesting on moving out, I already am! I accepted a job that doesn’t start until mid February and I’ll be moving a week prior to the start. It’s over 4 hours away from where I currently live. She knows nothing of it, only me and a very close friend does. I was going to Irish goodbye the situation. So AITA?