My daughter is turning 10. Her dad and I have been separated for 4 years. I am still on good terms with my ex’s family as they still involve my daughter in their family things, and sometimes even myself, but not at all with my daughter’s father. He is hardly present in her life and has even been ignoring all of her texts this month so I decided not to invite him, but did extend an invitation to his mother and sister.
He sent me a nasty message about how I’m isolating him and how rude it was to include his family but not him. Am I the asshole for not wanting this man in my house?
NTA for not inviting your EX who doesn’t seem to care much your daughter and NTA for inviting your EX’s family who do seem to care about your daughter.
NTA. Considering he is actively ignoring your daughter he shouldn’t be allowed at the birthday party unless your daughter wants him there.
Ehhh that can be tricky depending on the nature of Mom and Dad’s relationship. My dad eventually had to stop allowing my mom into the house when she’d come to pick me and my siblings to because she always started fights. Even if I had wanted my mom to come inside, it wouldn’t have been what was best for me. Idk if that’s applicable here but just something to consider
NTA I’m sure he’s welcome to throw her a birthday party himself.
NTA – But I think the biggest question is, does your daughter want him there? And if she finds out you didn’t invite him, will she be upset?
Nah this is one of those things it’s not what the daughter wants. Dad’s welcome to have his own party but since he can’t even text his daughter back, we all know that’s going to happen.
***”I think the biggest question is, does your daughter want him there?”***
\—Bigger than that is whether the ex would cause a negative scene out of it. Even if the daughter wanted him there, toxicity and such would be harmful to the daughter.
NTA
NTA – he himself could, and should, be planning something for his child birthday, but his priority is lambasting you for having people around who are present in your child’s life.
That tells you *everything* you need to know.
Ignore him like he’s been ignoring your messages and let your daughter enjoy her day, surrounded by people who truly love and care for her.
NTA. He doesn’t care about not being included. His family probably found out he wasn’t invited and he mad that they are and now know he is not invited. How can he been seen as a good parent with no invite to his own child birthday party? This probably had them questioning him and he didn’t like that.
NTA – he can throw his own party for her, you don’t need to invite him to anything
NTA unless your daughter wants him there.